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Another one here with a school meeting today - Advice please!

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sumum · 14/12/2010 10:03

Hi i have got some good tips from other school meeting threads but need a bit more ammo for this afternoon.

Ds is 7 in y3. has dx of adhd with autistic traits. Is on SA+. He is failing badly at the moment, he is not coping with juniors and is very oppostitional and not making any progress.

He get 45mins support x twice a week in the afternoon (it is just some random time when they have spare ta - not targeted support)

I think he needs targeted support in the mornings when they do literacy and numeracy. He is working at low level 1 and is beggining to see himself as a non achiever.Sad

He does have iep but with target such as 'need to start work within 5mins' 'needs to sit still on carpet'

He has his own computer to write with as he finds handwriting difficult(bought by us, not school)

What should I say when they say that he needs to learn to be independent when I say he needs 1-1 support?

What do I say if they say there is just no money for more support?

Please don't say get a statement as we are in the la who 'do not give statements', we have the other 'family of schools' system.

Any help gratefully received.

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StarlightWonderStarlightBright · 14/12/2010 10:11

Say he doesn't know how to be independent and needs 1:1 support to achieve this. A vigilant person allocated to him who observes him 100% of the time in order to be able to step in within seconds to support him, and identify through experience of HIM the few seconds when he/she can step out and allow him to practise.

FFS. I HATE that argument.

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StarlightWonderStarlightBright · 14/12/2010 10:14

'What do I say if they say there is just no money for more support'

You say, 'do you discuss your financial difficulties with all parents, or just those who have children with disabilities. It is inappropriate and a matter for management or the Local Authority and I have enough issues without carrying the burden of your internal resource problems, I am not interested'.

Sorry, but - get a statement. Or are you in Scotland?

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sumum · 14/12/2010 10:25

Thanks Star - was hoping you would be around.
We are in nottingham, not a good place for sn provision.

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sumum · 14/12/2010 10:25

Any other tips??

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StarlightWonderStarlightBright · 14/12/2010 10:28

Oh them again Sad. They're not the worst though.

They aren't exempt from the law, and it is your legal entitlement to get a statutory assessment if you ds fits the criteria that would get him one in another authority.

Honestly. It doesn't matter what the prevailing culture is, you can get a statement if one is needed and it sounds like it might be.

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StarlightWonderStarlightBright · 14/12/2010 10:32

provision should be 'needs-led, outcomes-led'.

Early intervention is an efficient use of resources.

Use the word 'expect' a lot.

Start demanding accountability too. It might be cheaper to give your ds more 1:1 time than answer all your letters and emails requesting information so you can work with him at home to make up for their short-fall in his provision whilst they speak to the LA about their financial troubles etc.

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Peaceflower · 14/12/2010 11:19

Star, I bow to you. You have a way with words, I think I will borrow those phrases, if I may, at my school meeting this week.

Good luck, sumum, hope it goes well.

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StarlightWonderStarlightBright · 14/12/2010 11:26

Peaceflower It is one thing to write them here and another thing altogether to say them. It isn't easy.

However, whether you say them or not, to have them in the back of your mind gives you a determination and a confidence that can sometimes get you forward, or if not the bollox and fobbing off that you subsequently get can give you enough anger to be confident to say them.

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sumum · 14/12/2010 11:41

Thanks I am going to write it all down and also give them a list of points I want to discuss.

Will let you know how I get on.

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