Got the forms (not date stamped) 8 weeks ago after over a year of prevaricating. Am now working through a draft with the cerebra guide to hand, and have an appointment on Tuesday to go through them with a support worker.
I never realised how much I did to compensate for DS's differences. Or quite how behind his peers he is in so many areas despite being so bright and usually 'passing for normal'. The sheer ingenuity of the tactics and the huge amount of hard work behind the scenes astounds me now I see it on paper and probably explains why the school think I'm exaggerating.
Even if we don't get DLA (or dh won't agree with me applying, he doesn't yet know I have the form) it's been a very useful exercise to systematically summarise the difficulties and what we're doing. I'm not even half way through, and there's so much more to write... as if I don't have enough other things to do. And then of course it'll be trying to make sure the paed sees that the borderline ADOS score doesn't make him 'not-autistic' and finally fighting on the SA/statement front.
The more I write, the clearer it becomes in my head but I can't share the constant low-level worry and strategising with DH. I'm frustrated by being so much further along the 'accept your child has SN & learn about them' route than he is, and he doesn't really 'do' listening and empathy
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mariagoretti · 12/12/2010 20:08
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