7yr old with autism..advice welcomed

[coffee1]

i am receiving outside support from organisations but i feel quite alone at the same time. I have to put up with various foul language, tantrums, violent outbursts, destruction in the home and even though these are hard to deal with i want to try and get his toilet training sorted, or at least form an improvement. He messes himself everyday and often wees in my kitchen in a certain place. I understand that his autism can contribute towrds this happening however there are certain time when i feel he can quite easily go to the toilet as he knows when he needs to wee because he chooses to go into the kitchen when nooone is looking. I would be very grateful and appreciative if someone can share some advice or tips and would be nice to hear from anybody who has children with Autism

[coffee1]

thanks for your reply and advice... can i ask what problems if any you have had with your child and how if you have, managed to overcome them??