Friday night sn chat.. Too tired for...

[TheArsenicCupCake]

Opening early as I'm on the wine with dh tonight ( he's actually not working this weekend! Wooopeeee.. Not that you lit aren't good company though).

Almost completed the Xmas shopping... Going to finish off tomorrow... And for all those who are sighing .. December is chocker with appointments for both ds2 and for ds1 .. So I haven't got a lot of actual time left...

Had a really up and down week but ds2 who'd broken down at school today came out quite chipper and has happily gone to his dads for the weekend.

Being in the festive mood dh and I got a christmas carol DVD ( the new one lol because we are children), a couple of bottles in ( because we are also grown ups :)), some mince pies and we are intending to slob out with dd until she goes to bed.. And then slob out some more!

Regroup time!

So join me in relaxed festivities.. Have a glass of bubbly or a smooth brandy and a mince pie!

[fanjoforthemammaries7850]

needing to relax..worried abiut DD who is ill and has only been awake for about 5 minutes today in total!

[woolytree]

Not on the wine yet but will be!

DS has recovered from illness this week but is very very grumpy today...again. Im shattered.

But a good week otherwise...got DLA MRC (1 week after sending claim in), started xmas shopping, DH had two interviews, got another next week...to run a playcentre and I had a meeting at DDs school...not that Im expecting much to happen but at least I got to vent!

I am starting to feel festive...when does everyone put up the tree?

[fightingthezombies]

Cheers Arsenic & Fanjo! Had a really bad end to week so have a bottle chilling for later. Bah humbug - have only done a tiny bit of shopping and dreading it. Can't stand all the crowds and tat.

[TheArsenicCupCake]

:( poor little thing.. Hope she feels a bit better soon

< refills fanjos glass>

[purplepidjin]

Sounds like you've got a busy time ahead , hope you manage to squish in some time for yourself too.

DP and I are off to my parents in a bit for a Chinese as i had to have a birthday on Monday. We're taking my Gran (89) so hopefully can slope off early, dump her off a cliff drop her home and snuggle up with a bottle here. It has to be an early one, I'm working this weekend (8-8 both days) and will be doing all the cooking for next Saturday's Christmas Fete. I'm going to do fudge, chocolates and gingerbread so that the residents can join in moulding things decorating things and using the Christmas cookie cutters. I'm not a big kid at heart, honest!

[fanjoforthemammaries7850]

me too, has important neuro appt on Monday!

[TheArsenicCupCake]

Tree goes up the weekend before the day in this house.. That gives us enough time to get usedto the idea.. But not long enough to get overwhelmed!

[fanjoforthemammaries7850]

we put the tree up about 2 weeks before,DD never even notices it or the decorations though!

[StarkAndWitchesWillFindYou]

Hiya. Fab week for me that has ulitmately left me feeling run down (I think securing ds' IEP made my body relax and give in to all the illnesses etc I had been storing up).

I'm also extremely angry, if not more so with the autism service in our area. They've been on a back burner becaue I've always had more immediate things to deal with but now that school are better the LA needs fucking crucifying!

I'm doing a course atm and had a recent 1:1 where my tutor said 'people underestimate you a lot don't they? I wonder why that is. You never let anyone put you in a box and barriers simply delay you rather than block you'

It was the best complement I've had in years!

So I'll have a glass of wine with y'all.!

[StarkAndWitchesWillFindYou]

Oi, you neva said I was fab!

[purplepidjin]

Ooh, Stark, that sounds like the revers of a backhanded compliment to me. Does that make it a forehand? [mmmm tennis players...]

JAABC, surely the mess is a sign of how hard it is to even cope with the basics when your DC's behaviour is as it is

[PolarEyes]

evening all. Had a mostly good week, it has been my NT child who has been Hard Work. DS1 came out with a Star of the Week sticker today, initial reaction wow! 2nd reaction hmmm interesting timing. We have a TAC meeting next week which will mostly be about my complaint letter their negative assumptions about DS1 and the resulting unfair treatment because of them...

[woolytree]

Its not always...hardly ever... that tidy...it was only because DD was at school and DS had a very long nap! ...and I made a special effort for you!

Was fab to meet you too justa! :)

[woolytree]

You did tell me how fab everyone is justa! :)

[mariagoretti]

hi guys. Sadly only joining you for a quick one on the proper computer cos my posh phone has died following a tragic drowning incident in the loo. Initial assessment by the duty social life worker suggests it was due to fatigue causing inadequate parental care and supervision. Lack of social life and mumsnet support does not fufil intervention criteria for this area's 'every iphone matters' strategy.

[StarkAndWitchesWillFindYou]

Have you met EVERYONE then justa

btw everyone. It'a ain't my flat. Just in case ya'll think I'm some kind of property tycoon.

Ooooh polar I start every TAC meeting now with 'wtf are you here for then?' coz usually it is attended by representatives of agencies who have had nowt to do with ds except for being allocated some funding to have him on their case-load.

In fact I nominated myself his key worker (as no-one else wanted to do it) and then failed to call any further TAC meetings.

I hope you get what you need out of it.

[intothewest]

Hi- do you mind if I join you again- I don't know any of you......Not had a bad week until I got called on my way to work to get ds from school as he'd been sick-that meant change to routine,coming home with me in the car,not on the school bus = major melt down with all the staff saying 'we've never seen him like this !!!' well they have now.....

[PolarEyes]

I am 99% confident that the professionals will support me vs the school. DH however agrees with the school that DS1 shouldn't be in the Christmas play. That is only 1 issue out of several, the others he does agree the school are Wrong.

hey intothewest good to "see" you. sorry about sicky DS hope he is feeling better soon

[intothewest]

Thanks- he seems a lot better-congrats on ds's sticker even if the timing is suspect(and yes I believe some conspiracy theories)

[signandsay]

Hi all, new and old, ds has just done a poo... in the toilet, yippee

first time doing that without any accompanying tears or stress,

ds was 4 this wk, had a little tea at grandmas and off for a swim at hydrotherapy tom, (we have hired the pool for an hr, really reasonable.. and he gets to celebrate with friends without having to endure the ASD hell that is children's partys.

am already on the cider... but then I am a wesrt country lass

[chuckeyegg]

Sitting here with large glass of red wine and large pizza.

DS had his CARS test and came out as mild to moderate autistic .

The teaching assistant he loves at school is going off until after xmas which is a shame.

Hope everyones poorly children are feeling better soon.

Woollytree- I need your tips for a tidy house, I'm so glad we are not on webcams here.

Hello intothewest, nice to meet you I don't know many people either hope your little one is feeling better. :)