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I have really ballsed up this morning. I am stretched too far, I am too tired and I let DS down. :(

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SammyK Tue 07-Oct-08 12:54:42

I am gutted. DS has first round of appointments today - paediatricianand SALT one todayt and one tomorrow - I went this morning to the wrongplace at the wrong time, and missed his paediatrician appointment. sad sad sad

I broke down and sobbed in the middle of the health centre.

DS was up all last night, I didn't go to bed until late last night as was doing coursweork and printer broke. Thank god DP turned up at the clinic I was at (just happened to have got out of work and come to hold my hand). I feel crappy. sad

I have been trying to resist my AD prescription (been in my handbag 3 weeks, and I was hoping I could say goodbye to them), but no. I have stacks of things everywhere, jobs stacking up, the house is a tip and the cloud is back. sad

RubyRioja Tue 07-Oct-08 13:03:54

This looks so sad, I could not ignore. It sounds like you are having a truly horrid time atm. Try not to beat yourself up over appointment - that sort of thing is so easily done, especially when sleep deprived.

Could you call the paidiatrician and see if you could grab a cancellation or no show to replace it? I am sure this sort of thing happens regularly. Maybe that way you won't have to wait too long.

If you are suffering with depression, it seems sensible to treat it. I can appreciate your wanting to stop, but why make life more difficult by rejecting what you need?

Much sympathy

SammyK Tue 07-Oct-08 13:06:31

thanks ruby sad

I just fel so shitty, I can't even take him to the right appointment!! I am just overwhelmed I guess.

I will go get my prescription later, I do need it, I realise that now. sad

Peachy Tue 07-Oct-08 13:10:54

you sure it was you wrong? they've done tis to poel I know when appointee has ad a letter with time on!

Sriosuly the pre-dx stage of assessment is hard on anyone; if you're already depressed it's goin to be tough. Seriosuly consider those ad's, or at least chat to the GP

SammyK Tue 07-Oct-08 13:24:12

Hiya peachy, no it was me. sad

I had both letters on me, along with all his other bumf, red book, obs from his teacher, etc.

I looked at the letters several times last night, and a half dozen this morning, and still got it wrong! I feel s daft! I just have a lot on my plate, am beyond tired, my head is a shed as my BIL would say!

RubyRioja Tue 07-Oct-08 13:28:13

My approach to this sort of cock up on my part varies. Sometimes I rant at Dh blaming him, on the basis that if he had picked his socks off the floor, I would have had an extra 5 mins to check my diary, therefore it is his fault. Sometimes I swear extensively and creatively at length. At other times I take a broader perspective and think, there was a reason I was not meant to be in that place and that time. My missing that journey meant maybe I would have been in an accident and someone was looking out for me.

Mostly I swear.

Hope you get some rest and a quick rebooking

SammyK Tue 07-Oct-08 18:29:45

thanks - maybe it was meant to be {sigh}

Romy7 Tue 07-Oct-08 18:39:46

so many balls in the air, one or two will get dropped along the way. we all do it. i went to the wrong place totally for dd2's first 'new' paed appt after we moved. the receptionist was most unsympathetic and suggested i drive really fast and i might make it (the fact that i had spent 20 minutes looking for a parking space for absolutely no reason at all had obviously eluded her). i've also forgotten eye hospital appointments, and my own appointmnts routinely get cancelled at the last minute as i just can't fit it all in. don't stress about it - ring the paed's secretary and just say 'i feel like such a fool, i went to the wrong place, is there any chance you can fit me in' hopefully you've got a sympathetic one - ours are brill and often find a spot instead of waiting for another appt.
i do swearing too. use the px if you need to - there'll be a time when all the assessment is over that you'll feel able to do without again - half the issue with the 'first round' of appointments is the stress of the unknown. once that's over you'll be in a better place.

TotalChaos Tue 07-Oct-08 18:44:32

agree with Romy. These mistakes happen so easily as you are in a stressful situation and you end up being sent to an unfamiliar place just to add to the stress. Hope that a bit of grovelling to paed secretary (or possibly SALT tomorrow) can sort out a new appointment very soon. btw I've missed one of DS's eye appointments and turned up in wrong place for a psych appointment for myself.

Peachy Tue 07-Oct-08 22:13:11

Gawd the amount I miss Sammy! Really we're all just human and you are too.

I find fridge magnes help but suspect that trying to crawl ds4 will see them as something other than useful LOL

swedishmum Tue 07-Oct-08 23:45:42

We're all human. It was the most I could do today (printers are the work of the devil) to get dd1 and her GCSE coursework to school 10 minutes late, which meant dd3 arrived 30 mins late, without lunch. Ds made it thanks to his running, not my parenting. Sometimes things go wrong - it's taken me 15 years as a parent not to blame myself all the time! Hopefully the paed was sympathetic. I find owning up and telling the truth the best plan of action.

chipmonkey Wed 08-Oct-08 00:17:26

Sammy, we all have days like this! And you know what? I'm an optometrist and we get people turning up on the wrong day in the wrong practice all the time! It could happen to a bishop, as my Dad used to say!

If it's any comfort, I turned up with ds1 today for an appointment re his ADD, without the forms that I was supposed to have filled out, this after a bollocking ( done nicely of course) from his teacher about badly done homework which I hadn't checked properly!
Felt like a terrible Mum and worried about whether my lack of organisational skills caused his ADD in the first place!sad

SammyK Wed 08-Oct-08 09:02:17

Feeling a bit calmer today (have salt appointment), one of the receptionists took my paediatrician letter and called the other clinic for me whilst I was sobbing in the middle of the reception/waiting room. blush

She said she explained to them and they will send me another appointment out but do you think I should call them too?

Thank you all for your kind words yesterday - it meant a lot to me, no one in RL really gets what I am going through - even DP to some extent doesn't seem to understand. sad

magso Wed 08-Oct-08 09:39:52

SammyK - hope salt appt goes well today and paed is not a long wait! Have also turned up in wrong clinic (just getting ds calmly to an appointment takes huge energy) and then tearfully rush across town - so I sympathise. Sometimes our underlying fears - kept carefully out of view under calm exterior - just bubble out when unexpected things go wrong!

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