My SN DC's birthday party - urgent question!

[everythingiknow]

My DC has ASD, and copes OK (ish) in mainstream; is seen as bright-but-odd by peers; now beginning to get one or 2 'proper' friends at last. Soon to have a party to which we've (yes, ambitiously...) asked the class (ie: more guests than we'd usually have considered, but only for reasons of being inclusive, and also to reciprocate several previously accepted invitations to DC). Not actually expecting many to accept, as I am aware DC is not super-popular; it's fine if just a few come - (and indeed some are)... All well, so far.

Problem is, one parent had earlier offered me plenty of support/encouragement at proposed event in a previous discussion about this a few weeks ago, but has since fobbed me off strangely when I broached the subject again more recently. This parent is now suddenly showing me perplexing avoidance tactics, not returning a call, not responding to the invite to their DC either - all very odd. Obviously something's up, but not telling me what. I'm quite happy to manage the party myself now, without this parent's input, as I'm guessing that they must have had major second thoughts about their initial offer of help. (My DC did behave badly at their DC's party a long time ago - could this be the reason? But the original offer of help and support was very much more recent than this - so why the sudden change of attitude?) My question is, should I ask the parent directly what's up, or just wait for events to unfold and see what happens? as the ball has actually been in their court to respond back to me for a while now....I don't want to pester them; am perfectly happy to let the offer of help go, if they can't face it now. Should I chase them up or just wait -WWYD?

[everythingiknow]

Thanks for responding here, Poltergoose, this is what I have since done, since posting this. Just as well too! - This parent eventually did call, explained reasons for the non-response (which were actually valid, and I'd not realised all the other separate issues that were going on at their end). They also said they couldn't help out after all. So it was a relief all round that I was then able to say that I'd (by then) found help from other sources.

Thanks a lot for your response - such sound common sense, and should have been obvious to me, but occasionally one gets stuck in this kind of dilemma not of one's own making, and then it can be very hard to get a perspective on a tricky and confusing situation. Grateful for your objectivity

[everythingiknow]

No, I'm not sure I do know about the SN childen board - I thought it was just SEN generally. I 'll look into this straight away - thanks again!