I would start making a list of your concerns and her difficulties with inattentiveness and distractibility. Take this to the GP (without her and explaining why you don't want her to attend that initial appointment). Ask for a referral.
Yes, a diagnosis can be beneficial to the child. Support at school for a start.
My DD is 10 and has started to have some real problems concentrating. Previously very strong at maths she has been moved down a group and her teacher describes her as a natural mathematican but is the worst child she has ever come across for making silly mistakes and just not seeing them. I feel very sad for her as this was her best thing. She's also incredibly forgetful and easily distracted.
DD is adopted and when we adopted her aged 1 she was being monitored for possible ADHD at the time. The Pead subsequently just thought that she was lively but nothing more. As she's grown I would say she's very bright, and can be quite challenging but not bouncing off the walls. She's got good friends but can be very blunt and not notice or care about her affect on others. This verges onto cruel goading with us sometimes which can be very upsetting. She's an only.
Where do I start about getting a diagnosis? If it's the GP, do I need to take my daughter with me? I really don't want to have to do that as there are things in her medical history which may suggest future potential problems but which I cannot talk to my daughter about at this point in time. She's just far too young to begin to understand or process. This information is something I keep very private (only my DH and I know) as once you know something you can't unknow it. People will judge her and I don't want that for her. Or should I talk to Senco and ask about Ed Psych?
I'm not sure about the value of a diagnosis. I don't want her to have another negative label to deal with but could a diagnosis give her access to some good, valuable support eg CBT? Just don't know what may or may not be given. We live near the Maudsley so are near excellent service providers.
Sorry long your insights or thoughts would be very welcome