encouraging/developing social awareness for 4 (almost 5) yr old

[verybusyspider]

Long story short ds1 in reception, struggled to 'get on' and school have him on school action with IEP and have got ed psyc in to observe twice, in mean time we followed up his poor hearing tests and he had grommets fitted last month, the hearing team have also been involved and said he has poor listening skills and given suggestions to class teacher on where he should sit etc.

ASD was suggested but we feel he only/mostly 'ticks' the social interaction box which could be explained by intermitent poor hearing (which has been prevelant since preschool - there is no speech and language delay) He plays mostly on his own and can be distructive to others games ie destroying a puzzle a child is working on, he mostly fails to see things from another childs point of view feeling it is all very unfair on him and groups adults and children on the same level - he doesn't quite get why a teacher should just have respect and he has to behave well to get it. I don't think he see's himself as part of the class, if he has something to say he just says it although some days (and more often now) remembers to put up his hand - he has a lack of social context ie not shouting out in assembly

He will get another observation soon and, after initial shock, we have an open mind - both ASD and PDA have been suggested, obviously ed psyc has suggested strategies for him to teacher but I find her difficult impossible to get hold of to see if there is anything more I could be doing at home, he has 2 younger brothers (almost 2 and 3) so we are ideally placed to reinforce social skills at home. Are there any particular strategies/social stories we could use at home? not so much the practical playing (I have made a concious effort to get involved - role play is not my thing but I'm getting better at it! and he has to learn dynamically as the other boys get older and want to play more constructively) but are there stories, books or pictures and discussion starters?

I think I'm finding it hard to know how to practically reinforce it as the other 2 boys just seem to 'get it' - it wasn't something I thought I'd have to actively teach if that makes sense....