Sympathetic nurturing schools in London?

[MadAboutMint]

We are moving to London in the summer with DS (6), DD1 (4) and DD2 (1).
DD1 is bright and will most likely do well in any school but DS has problems with fine motor skills (not formally diagnosed because he is so borderline) and is a sensitive gentle caring boy. Are there schools that are particularly sympathetic and nurturing to sensitive children that are otherwise bright enough to cope? A large competitive school would not work for him.
I have looked at the schools in Blackheath, Greenwich but can't get a feel for them from a distance (we are relocating from abroad).
Anything within a 45 -60 min commute door to door to Canary Wharf we can consider. Thanks.

[morethanyoubargainfor]

Not sure if this would be right fro yuor DS but what about this.

My ds is due to start in January and we have high hopes for it! Just hope it lives up to expectations.

[morethanyoubargainfor]

oops sorry just noticed your ds is only 6.

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Are you British or from overseas? Asking only because it's not clear if you're familiar with British school system ...

Any state (ie, non-fee-paying) school will expect to cater for the range of abilities and not be 'competitive' at ds's age. Your plan then would be to find a local state primary which has a v good reputation for special needs/support - often (as a matter of fact) these are not the schools that you hear everyone trying to get a place at, but the less 'sought-after' school with lower SATs scores etc. and not the ambitious middle-class intake. Or you could look for a very small school (whether or not it has a good SNs reputation) - state primaries vary a lot in size.

If you're looking at fee-paying, on the other hand, it's actually more difficult to find schools which you can be confident of knowing what to do with borderline SNs - unless, like MTYBF, you go for one of the specialist support schools - Fairley House is one you might look at. They are often quite a lot more eye-wateringly expensive even than the mainstream London independents, though.

Sign up to the Good Schools Guide online and look in particular at their Special Needs sections.