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dyslexia and secondary choices with twins

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latinaheart Fri 03-Dec-10 10:30:55

I am new to mumsnet - please forgive any transgressions. I have 12 years old, year 7 twins - one (DD) very bright and just started grammar school and loving every minute, the other (DS)is bright in many ways and an avid reader, but Ed psych. diagnosed moderately dyslexic, some maths difficulties and the usual processing/sequencing and short term memory problems that go with the package. We decided not to do 11+ for him. He is in a community college (state secondary) - outstanding but enormous school. He is finding social aspect very difficult - 'middle class values' (big cringe but how else to say it briefly) and overseas experience are not common in school. He is like a fish out of water. He had good support year 6, worked very hard and got solid average SATS scores so in secondary middle sets and ironically enough not given any SEN help as he is 'much better than most of our kids'. Heart breaking to see twins separated and him so unhappy. Should I try to do a 12 plus with tutoring to get him in to other twins grammar school? Should I go private? Local private schools in South west not fantastic - very small and not well resourced although some offer support. I don't think he is severely dyslexic enough for specialist school and it would mean boarding. Big dilemma... any words of wisdom please?

aprildays Thu 09-Dec-10 21:17:31

Bumping for you
If it is a school with many varied special needs his level of difficulty will not be seen as a priority or even a problem
But it will effect his life opportunities and his self esteem
Is there a local dyslexic support group who may be able to give advice based on local experience
If you know your son is unhappy and struggling - dont let it drag on as he may become disaffected with school completely

mitz Tue 28-Dec-10 21:31:07

My advice is that if one of your children has a problem you have to do everything in your power to help. Someone said it to me a few years ago - if your child was physically ill you'd be down to Great Ormond Street and the other children would have to just get on with it.

Same with a less physical problem, push the boat out, do all you can, know that you've done all you can.

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