Hi,
Well everything seemed to go great with Luuk's new school. Even managed to get his bottom cleaning issues sorted without much trouble but now we have a biggie to deal with.
In 2 weeks Luuk has been assaulted 4 tines by one boy in the class. Now I am not annoyed at this wee boy in the least. He has no diagnosis but even I can see there is some kind of sensory issue going on. Had to be removed from assembly because he couldn't cope with everyone singing ( I witnessed this one) and became angry, the 4 occasions he's hit Luuk have been transition from playground - classroom or in the cloakroom i.e very crowded and potentially very noisy with all the children there together.
It seems he is hitting lots of children every day so Luuk is not alone. I am fuming. In 5 years Luuk has never been assaulted and now 4 times in 2 weeks. I don't have a problem with the wee boy. I do have aproble with how the adults are (not) managing him.
After the 3rd incident I was advised that 1-1 worker was going in to work with little boy. However it still happened yesterday, but knowing the circumstances I believe it was poor organisation and lack of thought which resulted in the incident which could have easily been prevented. Add to that that Luuk has full time 1-1, so what was she doing when these situations happened????
I came home in tears yesterday. I can't bear the thought of sending Luuk to school every day when there is a big change he's going to be smacked in the face or worse. Spoke to our Ed hoe visitor who advised e to eail the head, which I did. I even suggested using Luuk's 1-1 for those difficult ties to be with the other boy as she was still in effect protecting Luuk. I kept it positive but being clear that the situation was completely unacceptable.
Well the head phoned went on about having to have same conversation with other parents ( Duh..... that's what she is paid for and parents aren't happy that their children are being assaulted on a daily basis!). Told me it's not bullying ( implying that it was ok then?) and tried to tell me that I shouldn't use the word assault as it was too strong a word. Eh what would she call it if, due to this situation I became so frustrated that I slapped her in the face??? GRRRRRRRRRR!
She has said that they have discussed the suport for the wee boy again and are changing things daily to try and resolve situation. That' s great if it works and I really hope it does. The wee boy is a really lovely wee boy who just obviously has some difficulties.
I have had to fight with my hubby to allow me to send Luuk to school today. He is fuming.
My plan is to go and speak to the little boy's mum ( it was her who told me about the incident yesterday and she was mortified - it's not her fault) and suggest they maybe get together out of school. It won't help with the bigger issue involving all the children but may help if he has a relationship with Luuk and he may not be so inclined to hit him.
Also plan on telling his 1-1 that I expect her to be between Luuk and this wee boy at particular times where he is likely to be struggling.
Anyone any more advice on this one. If it doesn't get any better I'll be going to his review on 1st Oct quoting UN Convention on Right of Child and other such legislation.
You may think that I'm a but OTT but unfortunately for Luuk if he gets a punch or kick to the abdomen it could kill him so this is a HUGE worry for us. I understand thar things happen and we can't protect him fro everything. However the school have a responsibility to protect him from known risks.
Sorry for the rant at this time of day but I am so struggling with this. My parent instinct is to keep him home, but he loves school. How long that will continue if he keeps getting hit though is anybody's guess.
Thanks for reading. Well done if you got this far .
Sharon xx
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
Here you'll find advice from parents and teachers on special needs education.
SEN
School Disaster _ Help!!
8 replies
shaz298 · 15/09/2010 10:03
OP posts:
sotonstudent ·
04/04/2011 10:14
This reply has been deleted
Message deleted
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.