My DS2 is 13 and was diagnosed with a non-specific learning disability just before starting secondary school. He had been tested for dyslexia as he'd complained when he was younger that the numbers and letters "moved" when he read. The school he was attending at the time said they didn't test for dyslexia until the pupils were 11 and I assumed this was across the board so when he moved to a new school when he was 9 I didn't ask them to test. By then though he had stopped complaining of moving numbers and letters anyway so I thought things had improved but he was still incredibly slow at reading and writing.
When his teacher mentioned how slowly he worked I told him about my earlier worries and he suggested tests for dyslexia. He was tested and the result was negative for dyslexia but the report said he had a non-specific learning disablility. I asked if they could investigate further but was told that it would be pointless as he'd probably be called "high achieving" due to him being very good at science and maths. Apparently he was the fastest in the class at answering mental arithmatic questions and regularly stunned the teacher with his memory for numbers.
Fast forward a couple of years and I'm starting to see things that worry me. I have spoken to someone in his senior school about this and they just tested him for dyslexia. Again, he tested negative. I don't know why they bothered really. I don't think I was listened to as I'd said he'd been tested and wasn't dyslexic yet when I went back they said something like "Well the good news is it wasn't what you thought it might be. He's not dyslexic." I said I know it's not dyslexia but something isn't right. He's very immature for his age and he doesn't seem to have matured much since being about 8 or 9. I really notice when he's with his friends how much more mature they are than him. Sometimes it looks like they just tolerate him. They'll smile at his silliness for a while but eventually can't be bothered. I said this at the school but have heard nothing back.
I wonder now if I should see our GP. DS2 seems not to have any emotions and looks puzzled when someone is upset. If I died he'd say it was sad but he wouldn't feel it iyswim. Our dog was knocked over and killed by a car and he didn't react at all. Also, he has a very limited vocabulary yet DS1 doesn't. DS2 will watch a film but not be able to explain the storyline to you afterwards. It's as if the world is going on around him and he's participating but with blinkers on or something.
My first thought of course is that he may have aspergers which is why I now think that perhaps talking to our GP is my best move. But, what if it is? If he's "officially" diagnosed will this hinder him in the future? For example would he have to tell prospective employers? And does diagnosing help anyway? What help could we get?
So, after that long winded post, does anyone have any thoughts, advice or experience of a similar situation?
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Should I talk to our GP about this?
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Amandoh · 31/07/2010 19:07
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