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UninspiringUserName Wed 28-Feb-18 18:23:56

Why the hell is this so damned hard?

I've been doing SW on and off for what feels like an eternity. I go great guns and start seeing some results, then life gets in the way and I seem to just drift off the rails. Before I know it, I'm right back where I started.

I have no idea why this keeps happening, all I know is that I just get so tired of planning, cooking and endlessly syn counting that convenience eventually wins out and I'm on the downward spiral once again. I work silly hours and have three children and often, there's just not enough hours in the day to meal plan and so I wing it. I know this is where I often go wrong.

My weight holds me back from everything I try to do. It makes me unhappy every day, so why am I so incapable of doing something about it? Tomorrow, I'll go to my group and will have maintained or have a small gain and I'll be honest about how hard I'm finding it and see what happens, but tell me, when did you get that moment where it just clicked and how did you stick with it?

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CrockedPot Fri 02-Mar-18 21:52:32

I’m the same - I go off and on it. At the moment I’m off and planning to go back to class on Tuesday and start again. It is bloody hard though. I just want to be thin and happy!

UninspiringUserName Mon 05-Mar-18 11:53:05

Oh CrockedPot, thank you for replying and not leaving me hanging. Now I feel fat AND unpopular! grin

Gear yourself up for tomorrow and get back in the game. You can do it. My life is grand, with just the exception of my weight which holds me back and takes the shine of everything, as sad as that sounds.

I went back to class on Thursday and faced my demons. I had a tricky weekend with socialising, but am being super good and hoping I can shift a few pounds by Thursday to make me feel a little more in control.

Good luck for tomorrow. Just think, whatever the numbers say on the scales, it'll be the last time you ever see that again.

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latedecember1963 Mon 05-Mar-18 12:10:26

I felt like you a couple of weeks ago. I'd spent weeks going up and down with the same 2 lbs. I came home, had a sulk and polished off the remainder of my valentine's day chocs.
Then I got my book out to get some inspiration and in the back of the pack I found the SAS log sheets. I've filled them in for the last 2 weeks and have lost 3.5 lbs. They're time consuming for the 1st couple of days but you could just pick the parts that feel relevant to you.
It's really tough when you're trying to juggle everything around everybody else's needs. My lads are grown up now but I remember how all-encompassing parenting could be. Good luck for your weigh in on Thursday!

latedecember1963 Mon 05-Mar-18 12:13:12

Oh, also meant to add good luck with starting again tomorrow, Crockedpot.

raisedbyguineapigs Mon 05-Mar-18 19:46:17

I would second the SAS logs. I did them when I was a bit demotivated. You can do them on the website too. I really like the website one as it lays out what you have eaten in a chart. Its a real eye opener. I need to start doing it again actually as I didn't go last week because of the snow and have have a few birthdays in the family coming up.

raisedbyguineapigs Mon 05-Mar-18 19:48:47

I've also been a real slow loser. Its taken me 6 months to lose a stone and 1/4, but I'm finding now that my tastebuds are changing. Lots of things I ate before I find too sweet and I've even gone off red wine! I'm hoping slow and steady in the long run will mean a long term change in eating habits.

OwlinaTree Wed 07-Mar-18 08:37:18

The only way I cope with a busy life is to eat the same breakfast and lunch each day so there's no head space needed for planning then. I have overnight oats and salad for lunch and fruit to snack on. Me and DH plan our meals on a Sunday and shop on Monday. I can work out how many syns I've got after the meal then. Only way I can stay on track.

UninspiringUserName Wed 14-Mar-18 15:30:47

Thanks all for the advice. Owlina, I do tend to stick with the same breakfast on work days, just makes life easier, and then salads or baked potatoes for lunch.

CrockedPot, how did you get on?

Guineapigs, I've got an SAS log and a For and Against list, ready to use when my focus starts to wane.

Week one, I lost 4lb. Week two and I've had four meals out so will be happy with a stay the same, though suspect a small gain. Grrrrrr.

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expatbaby Mon 19-Mar-18 08:37:35

I totally get where you're coming from. I also eat out frequently at short notice and working out the syns is a nightmare. I think I have chosen reasonably then check when home and discover that the salad I chose was way over my daily points. It often makes no sense so as a result I'm not really loving the plan even if some if it is just good old common sense.

UninspiringUserName Mon 19-Mar-18 09:03:20

Oh expat I hear you! I find I get exasperated by the plan even though I know it works, just because I often can't stick to it 100%. Trying desperately hard though!

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glitterbutterboo Tue 20-Mar-18 13:53:17

Hi everyone. I just started back today after 3 years off. Just disgusted the way I look. I'm not asking to be like a model but a healthy weight. Currently have 6st to loose. I do agree that it's really hard. And was on and off before I didn't go back 3 years ago. Since then I had another baby and my weight ballooned. But on track now and will take each day at a time and have high hopes this time is my time grinx

UninspiringUserName Tue 20-Mar-18 14:10:05

Glitter, you can do this. Don't think about the end goal, just break it down into each half stone. Before you know it, you'll feel a million times better. I'm taking it one meal at a time and I'm trying to make the best choices I can. Good luck!

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glitterbutterboo Tue 20-Mar-18 14:28:51

@UninspiringUserName that is some very good advice. Thank you

RavenLG Tue 20-Mar-18 22:10:42

I could have wrote this exact post.

I'm fine until "something" happens (night out, meal out with friends, social event etc.). I can't seem to just think "it was one meal / one night" and get back to it the next meal / day!

Started again Monday (weigh in Friday) but have so many social things coming up I'm struggling with the thought of messing up! I've done a spreadsheet detailing every single thing that will pass my mouth for the week (I've tried to keep low syn every day so if I do need a coffee or a biscuit that is unaccounted for I can). I think this is the only way I can succeed but it's so militant I'm not sure if it's sustainable. Hopefully it will become habit more than a chore.

Riversleep Fri 30-Mar-18 21:59:36

Hi I've been doing SW since September and have lost 1 1/2 stone, but have majorly stalled over the past month or so. Now over Easter I've really majorly fallen off the wagon. If I hadn't paid for a countdown, I think It pack it in. There's a separate thread on here slagging as off completely and I was reading it thinking maybe it is just an impossible task. But I don't think I have the motivation just to cutting out sugar or carbs or myfitnesspal, all of which which I've done before with less success. I really need remotivation sad

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