Baby is 4 months old I am feeling like a bit of a failure when it comes to bedtime! So I need your advice and/or words of wisdom...
As yet we have no set bedtime for him so it can be anywhere between 8-10. We try to wait for his cues. Have tried putting him down at 7,8,9 etc, and if that's not worked he will generally conk out by 10!!! He is breastfed and has a dreamfeed at 11ish and then he will generally sleep through till 6/7am.
He won't settle himself in cot. Is this usual for a 4 month old?
I try SOOOOOO hard to spot the cues and even when I put him down when he's relaxed, sleepy, content, etc, he will become cross when I put him down, and so begins the crying. I've tried sitting with hims and 'shshing" him to no avail. Eventually I bring him downstairs with us and he's fine.
I'm also a bit fed up of hearing the "oh, my little one goes to bed at 7pm. I put her in her cot and she just gurgles away for a while and then falls asleep" stories. They make me feel like even more of a failure!
Our current routine is:
5-6pm feed
6-7pm bath, story, kick about on mat
So, in a roundabout way, my questions are:
- Should we enforce a set bedtime? i.e even if baby is screaming he stays in his cot/in his room?
- Is he too small for bedtime to be 7ish?
- Should I be more strict with daytime naps? He is not a great sleeper during the day but I tend to 'go with the flow'. His best time for a nap is in the morning.
- Does it make a difference whether it's feed first, or bath first?
All help gratefully received! Thank you.