Nurse at the sleep clinic told me that by feeding dd to a very drowsy state when she wakes up at night, I'm encouraging her to be reliant on that prop for ever. "She'll never give it up unless you make her, it's time to get tough". DD is 8 months old... and usually only wakes up once at which point I'm happy to feed her, she's quite possibly hungry...
Anyway, she recommended putting her down awake then waiting outside the door, and if she cries wait a minute, go in, stroke her face 3 times with no eye contact and no talking. Leave the room again quickly, wait outside and if she cries again, wait a minute, go in, etc etc. Repeat until baby falls asleep. The example she gave was of a lady who had to do this 135 times on the first night.
So effectively she's saying, your baby may have to cry for 2 hours without any actual comforting. At least with CC the baby gets cuddled until they calm down, as far as I can see this means just letting them cry it out. Am I missing something important about this that makes it not as awful as it sounds to me?
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In what way is this more humane than controlled crying?
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jumpjockey · 11/08/2009 16:01
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