DS2 has just had his first birthday. So theoretically I should know him better, what he likes/dislikes/what soothes him and so on. But I don't feel able to interpret or anticipate his needs any better that I could when he was just a few weeks old and it's really getting me down, I feel worn out and it's putting a fair old strain on the whole family
Eg dh took him out for a walk to try and settle him to sleep tonight. At half past blimmin 9 for goodness sake. This isn't unusual, I'd tried at 7.30 like normal (actually its usually earlier but he?d had an unexpectedly late nap today) but after a good bf he just was not sleepy at all. Over the course of an hour and a half I tried popping him in his cot, stroking his back, patting his bottom, singing, humming, telling him a story, putting on his musical box, all the tricks of the trade! (not all at the same time of course) But no joy. I started to doubt he was even sleepy. He dropped off after about 10 mins out in the buggy. I just don't know how to comfort him or to help him comfort himself, he hates being rocked now and it's touch and go whether bf will make him relaxed enough to drop off. He refused a dummy from the start (ds1, now 4.7 was a big fan, was so surprised when ds2 spat every single one out- we tried loads of different ones coated in all manner of yummy things but to no avail)
If something miraculously works for a few evenings, it seems that the magic wears off on night 4- almost as if as soon as he realises that x means he's going to sleep, almighty hell breaks loose and he will be inconsoloable.
He often wakes after one sleep cycle, (45 mins?) and I'll need to "feed" him back to sleep (just a quick suck not a real feed). Then a couple more times maybe late evening 10.30/11 ish and a few more times during the night. Wakes for the day around 5.30/6.30. I can cope with an early start, I"m a morning person but the wakefulness from bedtime onwards is destroying me.
Our house is a mess because we tiptoe around trying not to disturb him. DH works full time and I do part time so there often just isn't time in the day when I am around because I want to spend my time with the boys. Except at the moment I don't want to I just want to shout at them to leave me alone and thats not the sort of mum i want to be.
I just don't know what to do to get my family more sleep, we're really unhappy because of this.
Can anyone suggest whats going on I am too tired and befuddled to think straight.
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TheRedSalamander · 09/07/2009 06:55
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