I am at the end of my tether - please help.
My 4 week old has started crying after being put in her moses to sleep after a feed. She never used to do this. She is quiet for a few minutes after I put her down and then starts crying. It is more a case of she cries, stops for a few seconds and then starts again rather than a constant cry. Definitely a cry rather than just 'chatting'.
I have just finished feeding her so she can't be hungry. She has been winded, isn't dirty or wet, and isn't too hot or cold.
I have left her to cry for a couple of minutes to see if she settles (she has actually just stopped crying as I have been typing) - she hasn't slept much today and we have also been out to meet some girls from my antenatal group so she was awake for the whole 2 hours when she usually naps at lunchtime - so I think she may be be over tired.
However I am at my wits end because I don't know what her cries mean. I tried cuddling her to settle her whilst out with the girls and she just cried, I felt like a terrible mother as the other girls were cuddling their babies who seemed quite happy with them. I tried cuddling her after her feed just now and she just cried some more.
I am already having difficulty bonding with her (she wasn't a planned pregnancy although DP and I had been thinking of children a couple of years down the line), but now feel even worse having seen how marvellous the other girls from the antenatal are with their babies. I feel like such a failure for not understanding my daughter better. I wonder if she knows how far removed I feel from her and is responding similarly by not wanting me to cuddle her. I care for her the best I know how and try to talk to her and sing to her to bond with her and make her happy. I feel like she knows I find motherhood difficult and is rejecting me.
I want her to be a happy baby and wonder if I am damaging her by leaving her to cry for a few moments when all other alternatives seem to have failed.
Please help.
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4 week old cries after being put in moses basket for daytime naps - help
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littleduck · 27/05/2009 15:41
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