Advice Please - 2.5 year old likes to check I still exist 4 - 5 times a night!!!!!

[alibaabaa]

Any advice please. My dd who is 2.5 years old, was a good little sleeper. For the last 10 months though, I have been spending 2-3 weeks with my folks and then 2-3 weeks with my DP (400 miles between them!!). This is due to my DP being overseas so much with work.
When at my folks, my DD started to wake in the night ( I think it was because she was a bit unsettled). As her room is next to my Dad's, I didn't want to leave her to cry, so just jumped into bed with her. this has now become the norm at my folks, that I sleep with her. The only problem is, when I get up to my DPs', she still wants 'Mammy cuddles' when she wakes.
Now at bedtime, I do read to her and then cuddle her (I know, I am my own worst enemy!!), and she falls asleep in my arms!

Advice wanted with regards to: Do I need to stop cuddling her to sleep, for controlled crying to work?
And any other advice?
I would be quite happy to keep this going, if I wasn't due with No2 in May. Want to get it sorted before baby arrives.
thanks ion advance.

[mawbroon]

I would be inclined to keep doing it. She probably feels really unsettled with all the to-ing and fro-ing, as well as the new baby on the way and needs extra reassurance not controlled crying! Why do you feel you are your own worst enemy for providing her with the comfort she needs?

FWIW, I regret all the controlled crying that i did with my ds and wish I had gone down the co sleeping route all along, because this is where we have ended up anyway.

He is now 3.4yo and is beginning to be able to go longer and longer without me at night. He is obviously ready to take this step for himself rather than have me decide when he should do it. I feel that it is a short time to do it in the grand scale of things.

[alibaabaa]

thanks mawbroon.
Was so shattered yesterday, thought i would have to have a big change, then realised, as you said to keep doing it!! Just adapted it a little. I have always disliked the idea of holding back on cuddles to 'make my life easier in the long run'. I think tiredness took a hold. Sat and stroked her head instead of lying down and cuddling, and she only woke up 2 times last night, so DD and I both more rested today.
See how tonight goes.
Thanks for your advice

[mawbroon]

I am glad to hear you got a bit more rest last night alibaabaa.

That's a good idea sitting with her rather than lying down. I often wonder if my ds is worried because I was in the bed with him when he fell asleep, but have gone when he wakes. If you aren't in the bed in the first place, then perhaps she's not so bothered if you're not there when she wakes. IYSWIM

Hope you get another decent night tonight.