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would i be a bad mother if i wore earplugs?

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Mimsy2000 Wed 04-Feb-09 20:55:34

i have a 2.9 son and 3 1/2 month year old son. my toddler usually comes into our bed in the middle of the night. my 3 1/2 month old has a feed before i come to bed and then again around 4am. this in itself is not too bad, but my nights are usually like this:

- sweaty toddler, occasionally snoring and often times trying to lay on top of me
- constantly snoring husband
- grunting 3 1/2 month old baby

would i be terrible to wear earplugs? i am such a light sleeper that everything is waking me up and as far as I can tell, the only time i need to be awake is for the 4am feed. would you?

Mimsy2000 Wed 04-Feb-09 21:04:22

errr... is that a yes then!?

compo Wed 04-Feb-09 21:06:01

you need to sort out toddler so he sleeps in his own bed
is the baby in his own room?
you need to be able to hear him
I'd get snoring dh to the docs asap

Indiechick Wed 04-Feb-09 21:06:13

Go for it, I'm going to tonight, ten month old is poorly with a bad cold but she will not sleep, have calpoled her up and she seems to be drifting off, I'm putting them in for a few hours, taking turns with DH. It's the only way. I'm getting so snappy with the lack of sleep.

bodiddly Wed 04-Feb-09 21:09:14

does your dh wake up when your little ones cry out? if so, I would ... I have used them since my ds was about 6 months old and can't sleep without them now. I am a really light sleeper. You can still hear anything major just not the snuffles etc.

RaggedRobin Wed 04-Feb-09 21:10:55

i had the same problem but moved the snoring partner into a different room as the solution!

to be honest, dd (now 9 months) had a similar sleeping pattern to your baby at that age, but it did change and i'm not sure i would have heard her cries if i had earplugs in, though i did consider them.

as it is, me, dp and baby start off in our room, then ds swaps places with dp in the middle of the night. this means that when i'm woken by dcs in the night, i can usually get back to sleep because i can't hear dp snoring in the next room.

still desperate for more sleep though!!!

Mimsy2000 Wed 04-Feb-09 21:12:24

thanks for the replies. not sure hubby will wake for little things but will for the big stuff. his snoring is really starting to drive me mad. i think it's because of a cold we all have and can't shake, but it's just been going on too long....

onehitwonder Wed 04-Feb-09 21:12:34

I used earplugs when dd was in her moses basket next to me. It meant I woke when she actually needed feeding, not for every random twitch and snuffle. Lifesaver grin

Mummyfor3 Wed 04-Feb-09 21:14:20

I have used ear plugs - a lot grin!

It stops you hearing every little snuffle and grunt, and I found I did still hear LO crying. Even in his own room.

So go for it - you need to sleep at some point smile

GentleOtter Wed 04-Feb-09 21:18:06

Another ear plug user here. I still hear ds at night (ok his cot is right beside the bed) but do not hear the sniffs and snorts of ManFlu beside me or the gang of cockerels outside the window. The foamy orange ones are good.

Gavlaar Wed 04-Feb-09 21:21:02

I have used ear plugs for so many years now that i can't sleep without them even if i'm totally alone blush

i wear them and just turn the monitor up so i can hear the bub if he needs me.

lollipopmother Wed 04-Feb-09 22:37:03

They'd have to be bloody good earplugs for you not to be able to hear a baby crying that was right next to you! I'd go for it, I did a couple of times when DD was a newborn.

roselle Wed 04-Feb-09 22:47:03

grin I have very funny memories of Dh and I taking our screaming DS into a hardware store and asking where the earplugs were. The staff almost fell over laughing but we were so tired we didn't realise until after how transparent our plans were.
You can still hear the big stuff it just means you have a better chance of getting to sleep and wont wake for the little things which is what you want.

Mimsy2000 Thu 05-Feb-09 08:45:21

used the earplugs last night and it was great. didn't hear my hubby snoring, didn't even notice toddler sneaking into our bed. heard baby cry for feed. just like it said on the tin.

ChocOrange05 Thu 05-Feb-09 09:03:04

Sounds perfect Mimsy - I used earplugs when DS was in our room from newborn - it blocked out all his little grunts but I could hear when he was whimpering / crying. Sleep is very important and I think we are all happier hence better mothers when we've had it.

Mimsy2000 Thu 05-Feb-09 09:15:12

totally agree, chocorange. when mummy's happy everyone's happy :-)

RaggedRobin Thu 05-Feb-09 10:21:25

wow... i think you might have changed my mind! it might be dp's passport back into my bed!

CatIsSleepy Thu 05-Feb-09 10:27:12

ooh mimsy-what kind of earplugs are they? are they comfy?
i might have to get some if I am ever going to share a room with dh again (he's a big snorer,and i am v. pregnant so have banished him to the sofabed. It's meant to be temporary...)

notyummy Thu 05-Feb-09 10:48:53

Another earplus fan here...they may not be sexy but they do the trick!

Mimsy2000 Thu 05-Feb-09 10:57:40

earplugs are boots own brand - orange and smooshy

i must confess dh was booted from the bedroom for my entire third trimester. earplugs wouldn't have scratched the surface of my sleeping complaints.

chocoholic Thu 05-Feb-09 11:02:40

Another ear plug fan here too. Block out DP snoring but I can alway here DS when he shouts for me (a sixth sense I think!)

After trying lots I use superdrug orange ones. Have a huge stock!!

chocoholic Thu 05-Feb-09 11:03:16

Oops, hear not here blush

Racers Thu 05-Feb-09 11:19:07

I'm another one who uses them. You can always adjust them slightly if you're not sure (ie don't squish them all the way in)

ChocOrange05 Thu 05-Feb-09 14:24:50

You can also buy earplugs from B&Q and Wickes - they are for people working on building sites but they are much cheaper than boots and other chemists - about £2.50 for 10 pairs orange squishy ones - and they are good at blocking out noise but not painful ones - you can tell I've tried lots!! grin

kittywise Thu 05-Feb-09 14:25:53

God, I wear them, go for it!

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