We always get 7 week old DS to sleep in some way eg in our arms, in his sling etc and then put him down, except overnight when he will settle altho mostly looks fairly sleepy when he goes down as I keep lights low for night feeds. I have been advised to put him to sleep in the day when he is awake so he learns to do this but so far he just howls and then hes even wider awake than before. Any advice? is it ok to keep rocking him to alseep for a bit or am I setting myself up for future trauma?
7 weeks is still very early. Don't worry at this stage about setting up bad habits - you are, but you've plenty of time to change them . It sounds like you're doing the most importnat thing, sleep-wise, which is to keep night-times boring for him so that he has no incentive to stay awake.
At this age some babies will settle easily for daytime sleeps (my ds did) and some won't (my dd didn't).
Yoou're still getting used to your ds. Getting to know his rhythms and moods. Soon you'll find out when his best times are for daytime sleep and will be able to build on that. Or you could try putting him down at a time that seems right to you, but not leaving him, just giving him a quiet cuddle, putting him in his cot/basket, and stroking him for a while.
Some people feed the baby before a sleep, but I found that my two were very windy and rarely settled well after a daytime feed, so I would wake them for feeding (or feed them after they woke) and then have some awake-time afterwards.
I did swaddle but havent done since worrying about the overheating thing but may try it again. He certainly does flail his arms about alot if awake in his cot. I moved him from carrycot to cot as he seemed to be hitting his hands on the side but may try swaddling instead. Thanks for the advice PC, its so hard to know whats right with feeding, sleeping etc etc!!
If you're concerned about overheating, then slip a couple of fingers down the front or back to feel his skin on his chest or between shoulders. It should feel pleasantly warm, not cool nor sweaty. Swaddling can help a lot, especially if the baby is a flailer. Alternatively, if he likes to have his arms free - as my dd very clearly did - you could half-swaddle him so that the rest of his body feels the cuddle, but his arms are free, or you could tuck him in fairly snuggly with a sheet comin up to his underarms. And there is always that godsend for sleep: the sleeping bag.