1 yo never fallen asleep by herself

[RobynLou]

dds never ever in her life gone to sleep without feeding or rocking. she stays awke util we actively do something to make her sleep, even in the sling she stays awake even if exhausted until you start bouncing her, then she'll put her head down and doze off.
it never takes long for her to go to sleep, she just has to have help.
if i put her down even slightly awake she screams within seconds, scrambles to standing i lay her down again and it just escalates out of control
either me or dh cn get her to sleep easil but she has to be actively got to sleep and has to be completely blotto before we put her down.
we've been attempting night weaning (dh going in and rocking/sssh-ing her instead of me feeding her back to sleep) for 2 nights and this is going well (she used to sleep through so we hope that she'll get back into the habit) and dh is starting to wonder whether we NEED to do something to teach her to go to sleep by herself.
basicly my question is, if we carry on like this are we setting ourselves up for still having to rock a 3 year old to sleep?

[IAteDavinaForDinner]

I could have written similar about DS aged 12 months. Now he's 14 months and this week he's been going into his cot, getting himself comfortable and going off to sleep while I come downstairs and potter. I nip back up and striaghten his covers half an hour later. It's amazing! He just got better in his own time. Do what you need to do.

One thing that might help (helped us) would be patting his bum while you feed or rock. Once he gets used to this over a few weeks you can then keep the patting up while transferring a sleeeeeepy but not quite asleep baby into his cot - it's like a bridge and it gives reassurance. We did this over several months and it has greatly reduced so he only needs patted if he's really uncomfy with teeth nowadays. Much easier than rocking, that's for sure!

[moocowme]

my DS is exactly the same at 12 months. We have just weanedhim off suck to sleep. so need we are moving from rocking and patting to just patting to sleep while held.

He was such a good sleeper before the teething nightmare started. I know its going to end one day. Ijust hope its sooner like this year rather than later.

[moocowme]

i would say we have had a little bit of success with singing to sleep. He is just not able to switch off on his own but this did help him relax a few times.