my 4 month old dd, apart from bedtime when she drops off to sleep on the boob, always seems to cry for 5-15 mins before falling asleep at nap times. i know she is tired, but am i being cruel by not rocking etc.. we did used to rock, sway, bounce her on birth ball to help her fall asleep,but she cried then too!
Its probably just her way of settling down as she gets older you'll probably find this is replaced by moaning and then she may chat or talk to herself. don't worry!! its important she learns to go to sleep on her own.
Some babies just seem to do this - but I agree particularly if they are overtired. My ds1 was always prone to overtiredness, however careful I was, and would usually cry before settling himself. he grew out of it some time after he was one I think! I really hated it but there wasn't much of an option - he needed to be left alone to get to sleep, rocking would have made it worse by overstimulating him.
Dd used to cry a little before going to sleep and I used to worry but she seemed fine. Made no difference how she was put to sleep either.
I read someone on mumsnet say once that it was like having a little grumble before going to sleep.
It is hard and I do find it hard not to keep going in. He has now started crying louder, and I feel I can't leave him in that state, but often when I get in there, his eyes are closed and he is just making noise, no real tears. But I am finding it harder and harder!
flosaam - if you can look at it that he really does need to sleep, and that is his way of getting to sleep - some kids suck their thumb, some grumble, some cry. Just try and make sure they are not overtired because for some reason that often means they can't fall alseep easily.
I knew with ds that if he cried when I put him down for his nap then he would definitely sleep. If he didn't cry but looked around, he was not tired and in playing mode. So for us, crying was a good thing!
My four month also has a little cry before settling to sleep before every nap.....i thought all babies did this!!!!! I found he was more upset if I rocked or patted him and it was taking him longer and longer to settle in my arms and he would be frantic. The kinder thing for me to do was leave him have his winge for a few minutes on his own in his cot and he settles in minutes as opposed to taking over an hour to settle in my arms
ds is 7 months now and he generally has a right good moan before falling asleep for a moan. I do have to cuddle him though, as when I just put him in his bed he finds whatever to play with (atm his feet and those I can't remove from the bed ) and won't sleep ... dont' mind that way he gets his cuddle time without dd getting jealouse, because 'baby is tired and needs cuddle'