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So, how do I stop snoring (like a train) DH before I lose my mind?

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OneLieIn Wed 17-Sep-08 08:33:52

Another night of unbelievably loud snoring. Seriously, it could drown out anything. He ends up in a huff after I have been awake for another 2 hours in the middle of the night. He sleeps v deep and I used to, but not anymore and now I have not had a decent night's sleep in ages.

Help anyone? I am setting up a spare bed in DD's room so I can go in there, but I can still hear it. His snoring drives me nuts.

squeaver Wed 17-Sep-08 08:39:37

Is he overweight? Losing even a small amount of weight stops my dh's snoring.

Or maybe he has sleep apnoeia (sp?) and he should see the GP. If he snores so much that he wakes himself up, then that's what he has and he can get a mask to wear at night.

Has he tried those strip things on his nose?

Earplugs for you?

With my dh, he only snores when lying on his back so I just kick him until he lies on his side.

Hope this helps, I really feel for you because I have been there with bells on. And they have no idea of the effect it has on you.

Hassled Wed 17-Sep-08 08:43:05

The biggest single thing he can do is shed any excess weight - the internal bits that make the snory sound (that's not the technical term, btw ) gets fatter as everything else gets fatter, which makes the snoring more likely to happen and louder.

He should see his GP - there are things that can help. You have all my sympathy - I was there with DH until he lost some weight and there is nothing worse than simmering resentment at 2 am while your partner sleeps like a baby.

squeaver Wed 17-Sep-08 08:44:20

Yes my dh has - shall we say - fluctuating weight! And the difference is incredible when he's lost some.

llareggub Wed 17-Sep-08 08:47:25

Does he drink and smoke? My DH no long does either and his snoring is much improved.

ajm200 Wed 17-Sep-08 08:54:44

My DH used to snore so badly that he woke the whole house. He lost weight and it didn't really improve so I sent him to the GP.

He was referred to a specialist who happened to be an army Dr. He made DH lose another 2 stone then lasered the inside of his nose to clear his airways. His nasal passages were partially blocked after breaking his nose years ago.

Things have definately improved he does still snore, but the volume is manageable.

Oblomov Wed 17-Sep-08 09:32:23

My dh snores. He is a big man. But it is better than it used to be. I have no idea why.
Or could it literally be that I have got more used to it? No. It did used to be worse.

Hassled Wed 17-Sep-08 09:34:49

I finally lost it when I dreamt that there was a man with a pneumatic drill in our bedroom drilling the floor - and realised it was actually the noise coming from DH .

OneLieIn Wed 17-Sep-08 09:35:56

You see he had an operation on his nose (he says something like boreholes) that his previous girlfriend has asked him to have done. This did not help and the specialist told him it was his soft palette or something.

I cannot bear his snoring. He does drink but has made an active move to cut down (from three quarters a bottle per night to a couple of glasses) and he is trying to get fit.

He does stop breathing, he kinds of holds his breath for a couple of breaths IYSWIM and I have told him about this and that he should go to the GP, but in true man style doesn't want to.

I can't do ear plugs because then no-one would hear the DCs and DS talks and cries in his sleep a lot.

And you are right, Hassled, nothing makes me feel worse than seeing him sleeping like a baby, me wide awake thinking SHUT UP, SHUT UP, SHUT UP

OneLieIn Wed 17-Sep-08 09:36:34

Also, with his drinking, he has changed from white wine to red and I think the red has made it worse.

cmotdibbler Wed 17-Sep-08 09:38:56

Make him go to the GP and get it dealt with. There are loads of things that can be done for snoring, but it needs a specialist assessment.

The main risk factor for sleep apnoea is collar size - over a 17" and the risk is huge. For men who have OSA, losing weight is really hard until they are treated as they don't have the energy, and the effect on their body from stopping breathing in the night makes it harder to lose weight.

DH was diagnosed with OSA last year - he stopped breating 87 times an hour. Since he went on CPAP at night he's been a different man and has lost over 5 stone. And theres silence in the bedroom...

ajm200 Wed 17-Sep-08 09:42:09

If the lasering doesn't work, the next step is normally a minor throat op. DH was offered it and so far hasn't bothered as we can live with the noise now.

The cheeky devil moans like crazy about sleep deprivation now that I'm heavily pregnant, up and down to loo all night and can't get comfy.. He forgets what he's put us through over the past 6 years

OneLieIn Wed 17-Sep-08 09:44:50

What is OSA? and CPAP??

He does have a 17 collar and he is overvweight. He also has a really fat neck which i think makes it worse.

SheSellsSeashellsByTheSeashore Wed 17-Sep-08 09:48:46

i can sympathise oneliein. dh snores terribly. he also stops breathing in his sleep and wont see the gp.

when i mentioned to my own gp to see what it was i was told its a condition called sleep apnonea and is very very serious. he needs to see his gp.

re the snoring dh has a spray called aqueas nasal spray that helps his snoring immensely. you need to take it consistantly for three months to get the full affects though and this is where dh falls flat he forgets to take it. so it doesnt work for him but might for your dh if he can remember to take it. you get it from your gp's.

re the sleep aponea he will be reffered to a sleep clinic where they will monitor his breathing during his sleep and if he is diagnosed he will a special mask that keeps his airways open during sleep and stops the aponea and also snoring.

cmotdibbler Wed 17-Sep-08 09:49:47

Obstructive Sleep Apnoea and Continuous Positive Airway pressure.

Surgery is apparently only an option for a small number of people - unless there is a very obvious problem in the nose such as polyps or massive deviation it doesn't normally do anything. The really important thing is to see a Sleep medicine Specialist (not an ENT surgeon) so that they can do all the tests to determine exactly what is happening.

OSA does have more implications that just snoring - due to stopping breathing, your blood pressure can go up hugely which puts a strain on the heart etc. DH's consultant reckoned that with his severe OSA he could well have taken 20 years off his life without treatment

TheConstantIroner Wed 17-Sep-08 09:57:42

If he is stopping breathing he must see his GP.

My DH was doing this during the night. It made him tired and irritable during the day and I was also tired from being disturbed at night. It was also pointed out that if it became really bad the DVLA would have to be informed because of the risk of falling asleep when driving. He had to do something about it then as he couldn't take the risk if losing his driving licence.

He had sleep apnoea, but because it wasn't really severe he didn't need the oxygen machine at night. Instead he wears something like rugby players wear to protect their teeth. However, this brings his lower jaw forward and opens up the airways, enabling him to breathe easily, even when lying on his back.

It took a while to get used to it, but has totally transformed his (and my) life. Silence is a wonderful thing...!

Lazycow Wed 17-Sep-08 09:59:53

If your husband is waking up and gasping for breath during the night as well as snoring he could have sleep apnea. As has been said this can be very dangerous and increases the risk of having heart problems/heart attacks. It can also affect libido and lead to depression from lack of quality sleep.

Ask your dh to see a doctor and if he is waking up gasping for breath be sure to let the doctor know that.

As others have said losing weight can help but if it is sleep apnea this won't solve the problem.

My dad had this for many years (40 years - my poor mother!),. He also sounded like a pneumatic drill.

He had the laser treatment which made the snoring much better and he also lost weight but the sleep apnea continued. It is only since he was referred to a sleep clinic/centre and has had a CAPP machine and mask to use at night that he is much better.

CantSleepWontSleep Wed 17-Sep-08 10:01:50

I presume that he already uses the 'stop snoring' spray available from supermarkets/pharmacies? Although it doesn't eliminate dh's snoring, it definitely helps it significantly.

Marne Wed 17-Sep-08 10:05:30

My dh snoars, i now sleep downstairs after i had the urge to suffacate him with a pillow grin. I can still hear him from downstairs shock

We have tried the pray, it does'nt realy work for dh.

OneLieIn Wed 17-Sep-08 10:20:19

Marne, that's exactly how I feel.

NotBigNotClever Wed 17-Sep-08 10:34:17

Another snoring dh here. It has improved since he lost a bit of weight and drinks more water. We have also noticed that if he does any DIY involving lots of dust or spends a long period driving with the air conditioning on, the snoring gets worse. I say we because even the dcs are woken up by his snoring when it's really bad. Now there is a mattress on the floor in the office upstairs and when things get really bad dh has to go and sleep up there.

squeaver Wed 17-Sep-08 14:36:15

Oneliein - seriously, he must go to the GP. You both might think he's getting a good night's sleep, but he's not because he's actually waking up hundreds (literally) of times - that's when he seems to hold his breath. What's going to happen is he'll start falling asleep during the day, maybe when he's driving, maybe when your dcs are in the car.

I'm not trying to be alarmist - that is exactly what happened to a friend of mine and he crashed his car (everyone was ok, thank God).

So make an appointment for him. We can tell you to use sprays, strips, earplugs etc until the cows come home but he needs to sort it out.

OneLieIn Wed 17-Sep-08 16:47:42

He won't go to the GP, he says 'I'm not wearing a mask' - I might show him this thread, then change my name!

cmotdibbler Wed 17-Sep-08 16:51:16

I can get my DH onto him if you like ? He always thought that his snoring was a laugh, one of those manly things, until he had the sleep study, saw how high his blood pressure was in the morning, and was told what it was doing to him.

A tiny mask over your nose (not full face)and a very small machine running at night is a very small price to pay for an extra 20 years of life imo

squeaver Wed 17-Sep-08 18:43:33

Or he needs to lose some weight. Then he'll get double benefits

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