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Getting baby into cot from parents bed!

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trowie Sun 20-Feb-05 18:31:36


I have a 10 month old baby who likes sleeping in my bed and wont go back into his cot, please any advice on how to get him into his cot?

chatee Sun 20-Feb-05 18:36:29

i've got his twin here, only my ds is 12months old next week

Fran1 Sun 20-Feb-05 18:36:52

No advice!! had same situation with my dd, used to try leaving her to cry and in her tantrum she managed to bounce out of the cot and onto the wooden floor boards below .

She was older then though, about 14mths i think. So at 15 mths we put her on a matress on the floor, and she loved it, still needed me to settle her to sleep but, willingly went to bed! And now at the age of 2 she has just started being a "grown up" girl and lets mummy leave the room once we have read stories, and she goes to sleep alone.

So if you can wait a few more months you could try the matress trick!

I have told you about this, cos i wanted you to know there are other methods rather than controlled crying and such like. I was never keen on the cc, or the door shutting etc and glad to have found with gentle discussion my dd has worked out bedtime herself!

Good luck

Laura032004 Sun 20-Feb-05 20:35:42

We had this problem too. DS slept through from being 3 nights old, but then we moved house when he was 6 mnths and he wouldn't go into his cot in the new house at all. Ended up with him in our bed until about 9 months, but it just didn't work for us. He's still bf, and started bfing about once an hour!

In sheer desparation we tried CC, and even though it broke my heart, it did work. It took about 1hr the first night, 45 mins the second, and then 5 mins and nothing after that.

I can't tell you the difference it has made having him go to sleep at a normal time, and sleep through (went from hourly waking to sleeping straight through).

We didn't use any of the book advice, just went into him (and cuddled him until he calmed down and then put him back in his cot) after 5mins, then 10, 15, 20...

If you had asked me if I would do CC a few months ago, I would have said that it was a terrible thing to do, but a happy mum makes a happy baby I think, and this has changed our lives!

HTH & Good luck!

HappyMumof2 Sun 20-Feb-05 20:42:42

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Chuffed Mon 28-Feb-05 09:29:57

What about putting the side right off the cot and having him sleep in the cot beside the bed with no side (an extension of the bed) then put the side on with the cot right beside the bed and then slowly move it away.

Nickinha Mon 28-Feb-05 10:46:42

what is CC?

skerriesmum Mon 28-Feb-05 11:08:54

Controlled crying, Nickinha. You leave the child alone in the cot gradually, for longer and longer periods. I could never do it when ds was tiny with the result that we now have a 2 year old still coming into our bed! Seems he can't get to sleep without touching me. I think we may have to put a gate in his doorway or something but it seems so cruel. I'm a soft touch I guess. When I read about 4 year olds still sleeping with their parents that really scares me, we just have a double bed and it would get really crowded!

Nickinha Mon 28-Feb-05 11:13:24

skerriesmom, I have more or less the same problem, my dd 22mth has been sleeping in our bed for the past 6 mths. I can put her in the cot once she falls asleep, but usually two or three hours later, she wakes up again and comes back to our bed for the rest of the night. I know this must come to an end, but I have not got the heart to do the CC (I learn fast) thing...

skerriesmum Mon 28-Feb-05 11:35:33

Exactly! There are lots of old threads on here about controlled crying. My ds has to stroke my tummy to fall asleep, it's so weird. He actually wakes and yells mommy tummy! Sigh.

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