Talk to me about Dr Jay Gordon sleep training...

[alittleteapot]

Ok, some of you may remember my shall I shan't I sleep train threads. So far I haven't but it's definitely time as DD is over one now and still waking at least hourly in the evenings. She's psychologically robust enough now and I'm frazzled enough that it's really necessary.

I think I'm going to do a version of the Jay Gordon method and have a few questions to those that have done it or similar.

1. Why does he allow you to feed to sleep at bedtime but not thereafter? Isn't this confusing for the baby - wouldn't it be better to consistently not feed to sleep?

1. Same really re his seven hour rule. Again, isn't it confusing that sometimes the baby is allowed to feed to sleep and sometimes not?

1. Finally, our neighbour will be away for three weeks in early September. I can't start overnight stuff before then as it will disturb her to much. But I feel the time is right, so, could it work to do the 7 - 11pm bit of the night and to carry on as now for the rest of the night till Sept?

By the way, we co-sleep and DD will only go to sleep on the breast.

TIA

[alittleteapot]

Last call for other Jay Gordon graduates before I take the plunge!

[RubiMama]

This is of no help I know, but who is he? I've never heard of him... I've had success with pu/pd recently if you're interested, or maybe you've decided you dc is too old and heavy for that one!

[RubiMama]

Sorry teapot, just read your other thread, and the link, sounds interesting, but I would have the same questions as you, why the 7 hour thing and is it more confusing? Might try this though when I'm ready for night weaning. Good luck xx

[alittleteapot]

Thanks Rubi. Glad pu/pd has worked for you. We gave it a go for about an hour when dd was tiny but it wasn't working/was too stressful so we decided to go with the flow.

Pretty fixed on the Jay Gordon one now. Am raring to get going but can't cos of neighbour, hence my questions.

I'll let you know how I get on!

[RubiMama]

I think I've reached the end of the road with it now too because I can't face doing pu/pd in middle of night and so it's confusing him, the flow is the best way I think, why do we spend so much time trying to fix things?! I 'll be looking out for your thread in Sep, hope it works out for you

[alittleteapot]

Good luck, how old is your ds? for what it's worth i'm glad i've left things be till dd was over one but now i think she'll understand a bit better, fingers crossed.

[RubiMama]

Oh, he's only 6 mo old and I feed him back to sleep frequently in the night. We started pupd as he was being rocked to sleep in his pushchair, but as he's getting bigger I felt it had to change. We've got him into a position now where he can fall asleep in his bed at start of night so I guess we achieved what we wanted, but whereas before I could take him out with me in the evenings (we live in Greece so it's child friendly) now we're confined to the house and as h wakes up at totally random times and wants nursing back to sleep we can't really leave him with anyone, so no social life...hmmm

[ChairmumMiaow]

How's this going? (am interested!)

[alittleteapot]

Hi Rubi, yes me confined to house now for 13 months! dd was on our laps till 6 months then bed.

Hi ChairmumMiaow, not started yet - dp thinks we should do it all in one go, not do the 7-11 separately, so we'll have to wait till beginning sept when neighbour away... are you considering it?

[ChairmumMiaow]

My DS isn't old enough for this yet, and we're trying various other things ourselves, but I'm interested for a friend of mine who has a 17 month DS and is really suffering at the moment (from exhaustion and marital problems caused by no nookie since pg!) so would like to be able to pass on advice

[alittleteapot]

I'll keep you posted...