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2 year old getting into our bed - anybody else experience this

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jenkel Thu 06-Jan-05 16:14:02

Our 2 1/2 year old has been waking in the middle of the night and coming into our room and climbing into our bed. She has been doing this since the beginning of Dec. We have let it go as she was quit poorly and we had a disruptive christmas but not sure what to do now. She has always been a good sleeper and is still, she just wakes, without crying and just gets into our bed and falls asleep again, we give her a few mins and then move her back into her room, or if we fall asleep she's in with us until morning. We have tried putting a stair gate on her room and keeping her in her room but once she realises she cant get out she screams, that then wakes our 9 month old and then everybody is in bed with us, including the cat....

Has anybody else experienced this, is it something that they grow out of (fingers crossed!). She does tend to throw the covers off her so it may be because she is cold. Also wondered if she is waking when she is weeing, though she isnt potty trained yet and doesnt seem to have much clue during the day.

Any words of wisdom

Freckle Thu 06-Jan-05 16:17:11

No words of wisdom, but just to let you know that our 6 1.2 year old still does this! In fact, we have just started a star chart to persuade him to stay in his own bed. Tbh, it hasn't been a huge problem until recently when he started to kick all the covers off in the middle of the night. Didn't bother dh (who slept though it), but I can't remember the last time I had a decent night's sleep as a result.

pinkdiamond Thu 06-Jan-05 16:18:59

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Tippytoes Thu 06-Jan-05 16:29:44

I can't remember the last time I had a night without my ds in our bed - he is 3. We have become quite lazy in that he falls asleep in our bed and half the time we don't even bother to put him in his own and therefore he sleeps with us all night long. To be honest, I don't mind, but we are thinking of TTC soon, so would be more of a problem then.

pinkdiamond Thu 06-Jan-05 16:34:12

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northerner Thu 06-Jan-05 16:58:26

Yes my ds is 2.9 and he does this most nights. He just wakes up and comes into our room and stands by my side of the bed looking at me whilst clutching his bunny. It's a bit scary really! I lift him into bed and he goes back to sleep.

4kids Thu 06-Jan-05 18:00:08

I've got 2 y old twin girls who both sleep with me tried getting them out but still have milk in night .Its easier cos of the feeding situation but also building rod 4 own back.

Hulababy Thu 06-Jan-05 20:58:28

Our DD (2y 9m) does this too. It is normally around 6am, but sometimes earlier.

I have thought maybe the cold or weeing too. Got her a new duvet but TBH no difference. And some mornings her bed pants are dry, despite her having woken - so not that either.

If it is very early - before about 5ish, I try and get the energy to take her back (sometimes fail have to admit!). If after that I just ket her stay.

No advice, but you are not alone.

Hulababy Thu 06-Jan-05 20:59:34

northerner - DD does that too. If I am laid too close to edge of bed and she can't just climb in, she just stands there and stares at me. LOL - she also normally has a bunny in her hand too.

warmmum Thu 06-Jan-05 21:05:39

Ours do this on and off and the only way I have found of breaking the cycle is to take them straight back to bed. Don't be cross, but don't talk either, tuck them in and walk away saying "Goodnight" or similar.

I posted on here some time ago because I was really stressed that our 3yo was doing this and was upset in some way and I did not want to send her back to her bed if she was genuinely worried, so what we did was to make her a bed on the floor so that if she wanted to come down she did not have to sleep in our bed.

Good Luck!! [sleep emoticon]!!

jellyhead Thu 06-Jan-05 21:07:41

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gingerbear Thu 06-Jan-05 21:11:59

DD 2.5 does this too. Have tried allsorts, putting a nightlight on, leaving her favourite book or doll close by, leaving a cup of water in case she is thirsty, new duvet. But she still does it.
DD came in our bed the other night, managed to turn upside down between DH and me and kicked DH in the eye - he woke up in pain bless him!
She often creeps in without waking us. If she does wake us, we put her back in her own bed, but she will often reappear again in the morning.

Posey Thu 06-Jan-05 21:15:10

Yeah, my 2 year old does it. Even brings his own pillow with him so he can get really comfy.
Doesn't bother me as it actually is less disruptive as far as we're concerned.
But by no means are you alone.

ZoeBristol Thu 06-Jan-05 21:16:28

My DS has done this since he could walk tried the stair gate but screamed tried taking him back but came straight back in the end we have given in he wont do this forever ( fingers crossed) and it is sweet to have a cuddle with my baby. My brother has 4 ds and dd they all did the same and just grew out of it, I have spoken to sleep specialists as he also wakes up tp play at 5.30 which is the killer he told me early risers is the hardest sleep pattern to cure !!! hippeeeee

zebra Thu 06-Jan-05 21:17:04

But what do you do if you have other little ones already (like a baby) in bed with you? DD really doesn't want to sleep on her own, but I can't have her & DH & me & the baby....

phoebeki Thu 06-Jan-05 21:25:35

My DS2 used to stand forlornly by our bed every night when aged about 3. I would take him into bed and dh would move to spare bedroom. After several months of this we moved ds1 into his bedroom to share with him and we never had another disturbed night. We suspect that he was just scared of the dark but couldn't really articulate this to us. He is now 7, sleeps in his own room 7pm to 7am no trouble at all. Interestingly, he still is not keen on the dark and sleeps with a small nightlight. I suspect without a little lateral thinking we would have had disturbed nights for months because his was not a behavioural problem, it was a genuine fear. So do whatever you need to do to get through this phase, she will not be trying to get into your bed when she is 13!

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