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ItTakesTwo121 · 18/04/2021 19:40

My little one still relies on me to rock him to sleep. He is now 2 and I've had enough of this, as has my back.

I'm looking to sleep train using the retreat method.

Any tips on how to get started? I feel w bit lost with it so finding I'm putting off starting.
He wakes up every night atm and I'm shattered...I just need to help him crack sleeping

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PinkCookie11 · 18/04/2021 19:42

What does he nap in the day?
When is bedtime?
Time does he usually wake in the night?
Time does he wake in morning?

Lots of questions but may need tweaking!

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ItTakesTwo121 · 19/04/2021 07:20

@PinkCookie11
His usual wake time is 7.15 most mornings - occasionally later if he has had a really bad night the night before.
I try to have him for bed at 8pm but often fail and he will stay awake until 8.45 - I don't finish work until 6.30 on 3 nights so can't get him in for 7pm
He naps usually for 1.5 hours a day between 11.30-2pm (depending when I get him down) never past 2pm though
And he wakes most nights atm sometimes for 20 mins other times 2 hours

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FATEdestiny · 19/04/2021 19:43

I'm looking to sleep train using the retreat method.

Any tips on how to get started?

Say you are currently rocking and pacing the room for him to sleep. .

Start standing still, but rocking the same

Then rock until he is settled but slow the pace if rocking when he's calm. Restart faster rocking if upset, but slow again as calm.

Rock until not fussing, then slow and stand stationary holding him when not fussing. If fussing starts, restart rocking. As soon as calm, slow and stop but stay holding him.

Rock to settle and still as soon as calm. Over time less and less rocking needed until just holding him calms him.

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PinkCookie11 · 19/04/2021 20:03

Would 19:30 bed work?
Where is he through the day? Could whoever had him, if not at nursery, start the bedtime routine for you?
Over-tiredness can lead them to going into a deep sleep quicker resulting in the wake ups.

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ItTakesTwo121 · 19/04/2021 20:56

@PinkCookie11 yes they could start him. They usually have him bathed and in p.j's ready for me.

I always wonder if he is overtired or undertired but can never work out how to tell the difference 🤷🏻‍♀️

@FATEdestiny thanks for the tip..I will bare that in mind to help slowly remove his comforts rather than all at once