Hello lovely mumsnetters!!
Posting to see if anyone has any pearls of wisdom but mainly to see if anyone in similar situation who fancies chatting to keep us going throu this stage!
DC2 is 11 weeks old and basically since birth (2 weeks or so after) has been dreadful nighttime sleeper. DC1 also didn't sleep well as a baby and wanted to sleep on me or DH but once we got to 8-9 weeks she was in the cot and sleeping for reasonable stretches. She was never a great sleeper and would wake regularly for feeds until 1 year but I see now it really was not all that bad. Now sleeps pretty well as a toddler.
DC2 thou is another level! Born a good size and EBF.....has always been a hungry baby from
Birth and fed V regularly both day & night and putting on a good rate of weight. Feeds have lengthened in terms of gaps between but still has not helped sleep. Each night is different, some better than others but the general pattern is wake every 35 or 45 mins, or an hour to be resettled. Now this doesn't have to be with boob, my DH can settle him but when with me only really wants boob. My DH is a legend and we take turns to sleep or we literally wouldn't get any! I sleep from when DC2 goes to bed till about 11ish and then again I have a couple of hours in the morning from 5ish onwards. When we sleep we sleep on sofa downstairs.
When DC2 wakes he doesn't seem especially distressed, in fact he is a super chilled baby
And a total delight in the day!! I know his napping is not brilliant or consistent, we were militant on naps with DC1 but it's hard to get a solid routine when the nights are bad so he's tired in day but also when out and about with toddler (non UK at present so can get to clubs etc). He will sleep on his own in day and can do good stretches (max. 2 hours a go), or cat naps. Sleeps really well in buggy or car but again pattern is not consistent. His 8 week jabs put him off a bit and has had a cold which hasn't helped!
We were having to hold him at night on us to sleep for a few weeks but he goes down in cot well now and has done for some weeks now. But as I said just won't sleep for long stretches. Sometimes thou (V rare) he will surprise us and do an hour and a half, or 2 hours, or V V occasionally 3 hours! I can count on one hand when he has done this since birth, but he can
Do it! But his general pattern is up every 35, 45 or hour in cot. This is after feed and being upright for 20ish mins.
We have tried white noise, using a Muslin that we Have held to be warm and smell of us and lots of other tricks. We have a good bedtime routine and he always goes down well. In night still feeds several times, sometimes a good feed and other times cat nap feeding and then short sleeps and more short feeds! It is worse when he gets in this cycle and sleeps slightly better when he has a really good feed but this isn't always possible when he's clearly tired so falls
Asleep after shorter feeds. I do and keep him awake for a really good feed but doesn't always work.
We are holding on to the 'magic' 12 weeks and hoping this will improve soon but there doesn't seem to have been any improvement since birth. It's like he's in a permanent 4 month regression! (From what I can remember with DC1).
As I said no issues at all with him apart from this but we really are struggling with lack of sleep and having no evenings together at all. We have been chilled about it as a 'phase' and that each phase ends but there really hasn't seemed like any improvement or the end in sight! Lots of other posts and friends IRL, their babies will sleep 4-5 hour stretches.....right now I would take consistent 2 hour stretches of sleep! That would be the dream and manageable!
If anyone in similar boat wants to chat or if anyone has been throu this and has any experience or suggestions then that would be amazing! I'm now two hours into my shift of up
And down, out the cot for the night!
I also won't be able to co-sleep, I would find it too nerve wracking and also too knackered to do this too!!
Sorry this has been an absolute essay!!!!
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twinkletwinklestarz · 06/01/2021 01:06
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