I gave birth on fri eve. Baby is on anti biotics so we are stuck in hospital til at least wed. Husband only allowed to visit one hour a day. Baby is feeding pretty much continuously and then simply will not sleep in his cot. On fri night he was in special care, but since Sat lunchtime the longest stretch of sleep he's had is about an hour. On sat night the midwives took him for me twice so that I could get 1.5 hours sleep, and last night 1 hour, but other than those, I've basically had no sleep. The baby will sleep on my breast but nowhere else. I'm at the point where I'm scared I'll drop off while feeding him, but if I put him in the cot he just cries. I feel like there is no solution whatsoever. If I was at home at least my husband would be able to take the baby from me to give me some sleep time and we'd have a next-to'me crib for co sleeping. But in hospital, despite having the midwives around, I am isolated. I feel like this is unsustainable and I don't know what to do. I am also struggling with breastfeeding, despite the midwives' help, which is making everything harder. Sorry for long rambly post but I simply don't know what to do... any advice appreciated.
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Congratulations. Those first hours with your baby sound tough. Don't underestimate the impact of what you've just been through.
Do you have an end date in sight? Because if you do, it might work to break down the time into chunks. Maybe you could ask your midwives about it, see if they have any ideas.
Is your baby happy in the cot? Because if he's in the cot and settled, you can try to rest. It may not be a decent 8 hour kip, but you do need to rest.
Equally, getting up and sort of ready for the day might help too?
Is there a day room you can walk to?
Hang in there. You'll be home soon. 
Are you feeling pressured to continue the breastfeeding OP? Just you mention struggling, I wondered it you felt like you had no option than to continue with it because you're in hospital rather than your own home. I mean BF is great if it works out, but less so if you're only doing it because you don't feel like you have an alternative. Remember it's still your choice to make.
Regarding sleep/not wanting to be put down, it all sounds very normal at this age, some newborns are definitely like this. You may be right that it'd be better if you were at home and DH could help, but I found with feeding in the early days being pretty much constant DH couldn't help me all that much anyway. You do find a way to cope with the tiredness better as time goes on though.
Best of luck with everything 
Oh your poor thing. I've had two babies, had some difficulty establishing breastfeeding with both - DC1 had tongue tie and DC2 (who is now 3 months old) didn't, but she did need some sessions with an osteopath to improve mobility in her neck and jaw.
I don't think this sounds normal - newborns tend to sleep a lot so if your baby is only sleeping for very short stretches and is constantly at the breast, that suggests to me that he's hungry. Please ask the midwife if she can get the infant feeding specialist to come and give you some breastfeeding support and do a proper tongue tie assessment. Most midwives are not trained in tongue tie so you need someone who is. And if it's not tongue tie they can advise on other issues and just BF in general.
Info about tongue tie here www.tongue-tie.org.uk/tongue-tie-information/
Hang on in there - it should get a bit easier after your milk comes in (around day 3-5 IIRC).
You are doing such a good job!!!! It is so hard in the beginning and under current circumstances you are a super woman! I had a similar experience on day 2 with my baby where she cluster fed from 11:30pm until 6am when the midwife took her from me to give her a bottle so I could 'get women sleep before breakfast at 7am' 
just keep pestering the midwifes for help and dont worry about them being busy. They are there for you so use them! One of the midwives set me up to co-sleep because I was terrified I'd smother my LO and that helped although I was so exhausted I forgot my DD name 
if it were me in your situation I would keep in mind that this is just for a while and then when you get home your DH will be there to help and you can get more of a rest and be comfortable in your own home. Remember you've been through a lot so it will all feel very intense and that's ok - its very normal! I would also persevere with trying to put your baby in the cot. When my LO was a newborn I had it in my head that I HAD to be awake when she was awake but if she is happy and safe in her cot then you get some sleep. Hope it gets a bit easier for you. It won't be long until your home x
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