Positive thread to help the dreaded night feeds!

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Hannah58 Tue 03-Nov-20 19:37:50

Hi all!
I was just wondering if anyone was interested in joining in on a thread filled with fun/light hearted/positive stuff that we can add to and read during the dreaded night feeds?!
My little one is 4 weeks and I'm finding myself dreading the night times due to the 3 hourly feeds. Sometimes I find myself scrolling on my phone whilst I wait for him to settle and I thought it might be nice to have somewhere to chat to people in the same boat!
I was thinking it could be funny pictures/ quotes/ stories/ positive affirmations and a place to ask questions if needed?
I'll start off with a funny picture ☺️

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Thespottytortoise Sat 21-Nov-20 02:58:00

Toddler slept unexpectedly well this evening, so that at midnight, i got my husband to check in on her, because the baby camera was wrong and I was worried she was dead, as she was so quiet!

It's nearly 3am now though and I've been trying to get her back down for about 45 mins so far, so normal service has been resumed ;-)

Tbf, things are better here than they were. AJ average night now has a resettle in the evening, a midnight feed, and a wake up in the middle of the night (takes about 60-90 mins to get her back down), but I'm getting a couple of 3vhour blocks
Sometimes I'll have a worse night, where I see every hour, and sometimes (most rare but not that rare any more) I'll get a block of 6hrs. So that's headed in the right direction, and I'll be glad if that for as long as it lasts. I'm not going to presume that it'll keep on improving, or even stay as it is, as I've been in this game long enough now, but I can hope I guess.

Needmoresleep123 Thu 19-Nov-20 07:02:35

Thanks @needallthesleep. Hoping it’s just a growth spurt.
Bloody knackered!
4year old went 4 hrs between feeds straight away when she was a newborn so all new here.

Needallthesleep Thu 19-Nov-20 06:40:51

@Needmoresleep123 mine is the same. I have to wake her up fully at each feed by changing her nappy. I’m also a bit mean and leave her feed as long as I possibly can so she’s more hungry.

Given his age he may also be going through a growth spurt if that amount of times awake is unusual??

I had an ok night with my 5 week old. She ate non stop until midnight (luckily my husband had her so I could sleep!), then was up at 3 and 6.30. Definitely growth spurt here with the evening cluster feeding!

Needmoresleep123 Thu 19-Nov-20 05:56:35

Not a good one here... 7 week old slept 7-10.30, then until 12, 1, 2,4 now from 5.30 he’s been asleep on me!!

Any advice on how to stop him snacking at night feeds. Feel he doesn’t fill up, as iOS done in 5 mins and has fallen asleep!

Hannah58 Wed 18-Nov-20 21:36:48

This made me chuckle 😂 Very true!
Good luck tonight all!

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Needallthesleep Tue 17-Nov-20 04:38:25

I’ve had a pretty good night. My 5 week old DD was with my DH until midnight, then after he brought her up she slept until 4am. I’m trying to resettle her now, and hoping she sleeps until 7/8am.

It’s so up and down though. Yesterday was an ‘up every hour’ night.

How’s everyone else?

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Hannah58 Tue 17-Nov-20 02:25:47

@ButterflyOfFreedom That looks like a great fb page to scroll through! ☺️
How's everyone's nights going?

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ButterflyOfFreedom Mon 16-Nov-20 19:30:21

I tend to scroll aimlessly through stuff on my phone, came across this - some good stuff in here to make you smile (even at 3am!!)

https://www.facebook.com/groups/1043372732715180/?ref=share

Sairafina Sat 14-Nov-20 23:22:49

I have a 2 week old and just about getting used to the sleep deprivation! It took until 2 nights ago to get him to sleep in his bassinet - turns out swaddling is my friend! He's up every 2.5 hours for a feed but some of those I have to wake him for which feels so counter intuitive as it takes at least an hour to get him back to sleep again

Teaplease29 Sat 14-Nov-20 19:40:03

Hi all,

Would love to join. 7 month old DD up every few hours! Knackered!

Betsyboo87 Sat 14-Nov-20 19:37:08

Sounds normal to me too. I went through a stage of getting stomach aches in the evenings which I realised was anxiety about the night times. I know what you mean about every little movement disturbing you. DH takes DS for a couple of hours before work each morning and it’s the best sleep I have because I’m completely “off duty” and can relax. 3 weeks is still early and it will get better.

I had thought about listening to meditation. My brain just goes into overdrive so that may distract me.

PeggyMoo Sat 14-Nov-20 18:50:34

Sounds normal to me - we have a 3 week old noisy sleeper too so I understand what you mean about waking constantly. They do get quieter from what I remember, maybe when they sleep on their fronts?

It takes an hour to feed and settle for the first wake up here. Any subsequent feeds are usually quicker but she won’t stay asleep for any significant time afterwards.. usually then wakes every hour until it’s morning.

Shefliesonherownwings Sat 14-Nov-20 14:36:32

@Betsyboo87 I can normally get off to sleep fine but once I wake up I struggle to get back to sleep. It’s been pretty bad for a year now, since a horrible bereavement last year, so if I’m really struggling I try to listen to some meditation through an app on my phone. It doesn’t always send me to sleep but does relax me enough to make it easier to get off.

We tried a different routine last night. Instead of me going to bed at 9, and DH staying downstairs with DS until 3 when I get up and take over, we tried DS in his next to me crib overnight. I still went to bed at 9 then DH brought him up after the midnight feed and came to bed himself, DS then woke about 4 for a feed which I did and again about 8. I managed to get him back to his crib asleep, in about an hour each time and then I went back to bed too. It meant more time in bed for DH and I but more broken sleep. The problem is DS is such a noisy sleeper, even where he was asleep I kept waking up each time he stirred or whimpered. I didn’t need to do anything for him but I just kept waking up every time I heard him. I felt like integer really got to sleep. I don’t feel too bad right now but I’ll flag later.

I just dread nights now knowing I don’t get much sleep and I’m always nervous about whether DS will settle. Last night went pretty well I think but now I’m worried tonight will be worse. DS is only 3 weeks and I’m already struggling with the relentless cycle of it all. I’m just not enjoying him as I’m constantly worried about whether he’s ok and we’re meeting all his needs. Is this all normal??

Betsyboo87 Sat 14-Nov-20 10:28:45

I was my own worst enemy last night. DS initially slept until midnight instead of his usual 2/3 wake ups. But I just couldn’t switch off and sleep! Every time he moved I thought he was going to wake. We had a couple more wake ups then I decided at 4.30 I wasn’t going to feed him again and I managed to shush/pat him to sleep. Once again I couldn’t sleep. I went into the spare room at 6am and left DH with him.

Does anyone have any tips for falling asleep? I’ve never been great at it so it’s no wonder DS struggles.

I’m 4.5 months in. Not a long timer but I was hoping for better sleep but my now. I found when DS was a newborn I was prepared for it and thinking it would get better got me through the nights. Now I find it harder to have that hope.

bananabob Sat 14-Nov-20 05:42:25

Hi everyone I'm here with my 10 month old, he still wakes what feels like a million times a night! I don't think I've had a full uninterrupted hours sleep in 10 months grin my other ds didn't sleep through the night til he was 5 so I'm used to running on no sleep now lol. I stopped doing night changes months ago, that made a massive difference to length of time awake. I use pampers at night and supermarket ones in day. The pampers do last all night but sometimes leak if he lies on his front!

Thespottytortoise Sat 14-Nov-20 05:28:58

How's everyone's lights going?
Any other long timers on here btw?

It's 5.25 am and in literally sat in the cot, pretending to breastfeed a bunny. Shoot me now. An hour and 30 and counting so far. It's technically wake up 5 of the night, though thankfully I had midnight until nearly 4, so could be worse.

I think I'm going to end a message to my husband to read when he gets up to the effect of (1) please take the kids to the park/out somewhere in the morning (2) please don't wake me on the way out, on pain of death, and then I'm going to try to have a decent lie in.

Hannah58 Fri 13-Nov-20 21:20:03

@Betsyboo87 That's ok! It's good to hear other people's experiences as it always makes me feel like I'm not alone- and in that way it's positive! ☺️
Good luck for tonight all! 🤞🏼

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Betsyboo87 Fri 13-Nov-20 20:25:23

I can’t remember when I stopped night changes. It took me a while to be confident because there’s nothing worse than a leak and a full bed change in the middle of the night!

I think we’ve cracked drowsy but awake settling this week. It needs a fair bit of shushing and patting but it’s a step forward.

Sorry @Hannah58 I’ve just noticed that your thread is for positive thoughts! I feel I’m always so negative.

Hannah58 Fri 13-Nov-20 19:12:06

@Shefliesonherownwings My DS is 5 weeks old and it usually takes us about an hour in total during the night to feed, change, wind and settle too! I'm the same as you about the nappy change- someone suggested to me today that pampers premium nappies claim to be more absorbent and last 12 hours so I think I might give these a try!

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Thespottytortoise Fri 13-Nov-20 17:29:12

@Shefliesonherownwings

Newborn/first few months, with both bottle and boob (I've done one of each) I tended to change nappy half way through, and then usually baby would either fall asleep feeding (with either method) or when winded. Feeds would usually take about 15 mins (boob less weirdly) and the winding and back asleep, the whole lot maybe 25 mins tops.

This got quicker as they got older until about a year when it started to go to the other way. Night feeds/settling for boob fed baby take anywhere from 15m to 3 hours, with at least one a night taking 1-3hrs. Bottle fed baby gave up night feeds at 15m, and took an average of 2 hours after this point to settle, during her nightly wake.

Shefliesonherownwings Fri 13-Nov-20 16:37:36

DS is 3 weeks today. He’s doing plenty of wet nappies but probably only 1 or 2 dirty ones a day. His wet nappies seem very full when we change him so I’m a bit reluctant to leave him in them longer. On the other hand, he hates having his nappy changed and it really wakes him up so maybe leaving him would mean a quicker settle. So hard to know what to do!

Needallthesleep Fri 13-Nov-20 16:29:02

@Shefliesonherownwings how old is your DS? My experience is that an hour is typical until about 6 - 7 weeks when they start to be able to eat faster, and it becomes about 30 minutes to do the whole thing.

Betsyboo87 Fri 13-Nov-20 13:46:00

@Shefliesonherownwings I bf so can’t compare but once my DS stopped having dirty nappies at night we stopped changing him. It made a massive difference as changing would really wake him up. I just give him a good wash in the morning and he’s not had any rash. Not sure how old yours is and if this is a possibility?

Shefliesonherownwings Fri 13-Nov-20 12:59:24

Ladies can I ask how long it takes you to settle your little ones before they go back to sleep. DS is FF so from the time he wakes for a feed and I’ve changed him, fed him, winded him and he’s settled again is taking about an hour. When we were breastfeeding he’d fall asleep on the boob after about 20 mins so I’m wondering if an hour is the ‘norm’? We’re trying to slow down the feeds, wind him lots and keep him upright afterwards due to reflux but it seems to take forever to get him back in bed.

Thespottytortoise Thu 12-Nov-20 10:17:09

Only 1 proper night wake up here, but it was from 1:30-4:30am. I don't know if they makes it a good or a bad night any more. I'm feeling quite refreshed because I got a decent block after it (and we split it). I think it's better than waking every 2 hours.

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