I feel terrible but I don't know what to do about sleep as I'm just not getting much. Baby won't sleep in his cot during the day for more than about 10-15 minutes so I can't sleep when he does, but will sleep on somebody for 2-3 hours if held. If I don't let him have a longer nap on me then he is really unsettled and it makes no difference to night sleeps if he has been awake most the day.
I have tried going to bed early with him, at 7/8pm, but then it took him 3 hours to go down in his cot, and if I just go when I'm ready and he seems sleepy it's usually 11pm/midnight anyway. He then sleeps for approx 2 hours, it takes me an hour and a half to 2 hours to feed, change and settle again, and then he will only sleep another 2 hours by which point it's around 6am and he doesn't go back to sleep in his cot. I have ended up dozing on the bed with him in the mornings because I have no energy to put him in his cot multiple times again (following safe co sleeping rules) but I can't sleep because I'm too worried about it. So every night I'm getting 4-5 hours sleep maximum and can't sleep during the day.
The only time I get a bit extra sleep is if DP holds him in the evening and I can shut my eyes, but we have to eat etc so there's not a lot of time left over.
Last night he was settled at 1am, awake at 3am and I went to feed him and woke up on the sofa with him at 4.30am. I feel so guilty. He didn't go back to sleep after this till DPs alarm went off, and again I had him in bed with me, but I couldn't sleep for fear of squashing him.
He is BF and tends to snack/sleep multiple times throughout the day, to the point I can't do anything without him crying for me, so I'm not sure if there is any issue feeding, but he has numerous wet/dirty nappies daily. I can't do anything with him for more than about 20 minutes without him crying for a feed. I'm starting to log feeds/sleep today and plan to ring the health visitor about it tomorrow when I have an accurate log of a typical day but I'm dreading another sleepless night after only 3 hours sleep last night.
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2 hours sleep in bed last night with 4 week old and fell asleep on sofa
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Reelaa · 26/10/2020 13:13
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