I'm a first time mum of a very willful little girl. We've been cosleeping since she was around 3/4 months and would no longer sleep in her next to me crib, though feel it's time for her to have her own space. We would have liked to get her in her own cot/room from around 6 months, however due to a mix of the pandemic restrictions and being messed around by an online company, we've only had her room ready a week or so.
We're trying to get her into her cot, both to give her somewhere to nap and rest peacefully, but also to give us some space during the night (she's a bed hog!), however she just will not go to sleep in it.
She's always been clingy (made worse due to being stuck with just me for months during the pandemic) and either breastfed or rocked to sleep, and once she's sleeping I can get her onto our bed by putting her down on her side laying with her. She sleeps on her side/front and wakes up instantly if put on her back. However when we try to put her in the cot, even if she's heavily asleep, she tenses as soon as I go to move her and is crying before her head touches the mattress. Full on meltdown tears, snot bubbles, and it starts to sound like she's gargling her own spit which makes me worry she'll choke. We tried two hours last night and it got worse and worse, and we've yet to successfully get her down for even a small period overnight. She either lays on her back wriggling and wailing, or sits herself up and does the same. She only stops when picked up and cuddled (by me mostly)
During the day we put her in to play, and she seems happy enough so long as we're in the room (ie she doesn't panic) but we have the same reaction with trying for naps.
I'm at my wits end trying to get her in there, even after only 4/5 nights of trying - it's just getting worse and no glimmer of hope. She's just started crawling and settling in at nursery (where she also won't sleep) so I'm desperate to nail this - any help would be so, so appreciated
We've tried white noise, lullaby sounds, a diffuser, pitch black, little nightlight, singing, silence, rubbing or placing a hand on her tummy (can't rub her back as she won't turn at all), even putting a breast pad under the sheet to make it smell of me. The only other thing I can find suggested is controlled crying, but I can't bear to hear her cry for so long, she just doesn't console herself. I feel like I've done everything wrong up til this point and no idea how to make it better
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9mo won't sleep in cot at all - cries as soon as put down
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MumOfCub2019 · 03/10/2020 05:35
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