First time mummy here in desperate need of advice! I'll appreciate anything!
I have a little boy who has just turned 6 months. He is EBF and is being weaned onto solids which is going really well, pretty much 3 meals a day and he's loving it!
I'm a single parent and I live at home with my parents.
He has always had problems with his sleep, he always fought it. Up until around 2 and a half/3 months he could give me 4/5 hours at night, but he would still fight going to sleep so I gave him a dummy. Worse thing I ever did, major regrets.
Then he hit the 4 month regression at 3 and a half months.
My Dad does a high risk job so needs his sleep, so I took advantage of the dummy to help my Dad get sleep but now I'm seriously suffering for it 😪 I haven't had a nights sleep where I get more than an hour or 2 together for 3 months, and then obviously the newborn cluster feeding days so I've probably had 1 ok month of sleep when he was 2 months old I'd say and it's really taking it's toll on me now.
He is 100% reliant on the dummy to full asleep, and I feel like a failure every time I put him for a nap and to bed, I feel like I just plug him in to fall to sleep. I cry at every nap and bedtime. But I'm in such a rut now, I don't know how to get out, if he wakes from any sleep he will look around etc, but the second I put the dummy in he's out for the count.
He wakes me between 8-12 times a night and all night long I put the dummy in and he goes right back off. I know because this is the only way he knows how to sleep now, so when connecting cycles he needs the crutch to fall back to sleep.
He gets a good 3ish hours of sleep during the day across 2/3 naps. And he normally wakes at 5/6am 😠and goes to bed between 7/8pm.
I really want him to be able to self settle for his and my sake.
But I must admit at 6 months I still don't really know how to comfort him. He is a beautiful happy boy, but quite a difficult baby (my mum has had 3 children and sometimes she finds it hard trying to figure him out), my mum calls him Baby Einstein because she thinks he's too clever, for instance, bored of all toys within a minute, so running on empty trying to keep him occupied is really hard.
I know every baby is different but everyday feels like a battle with him. He has never fallen to sleep anywhere but his crib (I know this is a good thing, but I get so worried going out because if I'm at someones house and he's due a nap, I can't get him to sleep), he will nap in the car or pram.
It's also really hard as where he is breastfed, once he is finished feeding, I can tell he uses me for comfort which is totally fine, but I can't sit attached all day as his dummy 😂. When I take him away he sometimes whines, so I give him the dummy. So I find it really difficult, I want to get rid of the dummy but at the same time it's a comfort for him.
He is hard to comfort too. I still don't know how to comfort him, I try rubbing his head, his face, holding his hand, but all he tries to do is is to grab at my hands which is so frustrating, bless him.
I tried the pick up put down method for all of 20 minutes the other day when I tried to not give him the dummy at bedtime. He doesn't like to be cradled like a newborn so I had to pick him up upright, but the first 2 times I picked him up, he calmed and I laid him back down. But the third time I picked him up he would not calm down, was just crying and crying so I gave him dummy.
I know you need to be consistent and persevere but it was scary as I just didn't know how long he would cry for 😪
I don't know if it probably wound him up picking him up as he might think 'oh I'm getting up'. Would anyone have any other/better suggestions of methods I could use, I am absolutely losing my marbles 😠and need sleep!
Apologies for how long that was!! Thank you in advance! X
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Tashh13 · 23/03/2020 15:05
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