Always waking after 45 minutes!

[BettyBoo246]

DD is nearly 6 months. She will go to sleep around 7.30 and then exactly 45 minutes later she wakes, every night on the dot. Sometimes it can take 5 minutes to resettle sometimes 30.
I know it’s a sleep cycle but how the flip do I stop it?
She is generally good for the rest of the night till around 6-6.30am. I sometimes have to shush and pat her a couple of times through the night and some nights not at all.
I do want to put her in her cot soon in her own room but with this waking up after 45 minutes I’m reluctant to as if I don’t get to her within minutes she will completely wake up.

[SoyDora]

Mine does this too. However as my first two were horrific sleepers I figured it’s a small price to pay in return for a decent nights sleep after that! That’s no help to you though, sorry.

[BendingSpoons]

When are her naps? It almost sounds like she is having a nap at 7.30. It might help to have a later nap and a later bedtime, although probably not ideal for you.

[SoyDora]

^ yes I agree with this. Mine seems to see the fiery stretch of sleep as a nap. If he naps later and goes down to bed later he doesn’t do the 45 min thing.

[CottonSock]

Bloody hell. You are so lucky. Both mine woke every 45 mins at this age

[BettyBoo246]

Bending her last nap is usually around 4pm for no longer than an hour. I then put her to bed at 7.30 for the night.

I try to make sure she doesn’t have anymore than 3-3.5hrs sleep in total in naps during the day.

She does seem to be able to self settle to some extent through the night thats why I can’t understand why she can resettle herself after 45 minutes at the start of bedtime

[SoyDora]

CottonSock yes DD1 and DD2 did too, which is why I’m not seeing it as a problem with DC3! I can handle a resettle after 45 mins 😀

[LyndzB]

I'm in exactly the same position as you with my four month old. Have no idea why it happens! But I've noticed anytime I put him to sleep before 8 he does this, if I go for 8.30 ish he doesn't. Might be worth a try!

[BettyBoo246]

Soy is your dc3 in their cot in their own room now?
Dh thinks it will help if I actually put her in her cot in her room as maybe its because she’s still downstairs with us still that wakes her?

I do take her up eventually to bed but not until after her 45 minute wake up has passed

[SoyDora]

No, still downstairs with us at the moment. He’s in his sleepyhead next to me on the sofa and I just keep putting his dummy back in and rubbing his tummy until he resettles. Sometimes it’s fairly quick, sometimes it takes a while.

[BettyBoo246]

I might have to try a slightly later bedtime then she does struggle though to stay awake much longer than 2.5hrs

Dh thinks I’m being lazy not putting her in her cot/room as it will mean me having to get up to resettle but it's just so much easier when she’s right next to me

[SoyDora]

Dh thinks I’m being lazy not putting her in her cot/room as it will mean me having to get up to resettle but it's just so much easier when she’s right next to me grin

Can’t he do some of the resettling? The way it works here is one of us sorts the kitchen out after dinner while the other does baby duties!

[BettyBoo246]

Yes we do take it in turns every night, he’ll do ds who’s 5 one night and I’ll do dd and we swap each night.

The tv is on super low volume and the white noise is on full blast till I take her up to our room at 9

[SoyDora]

One of us takes the 5 and 3 year olds and the other one takes the baby... the baby is often the easier one . DH had the baby last night and after the resettle only had to get up once at 5.30am. I however was up from 1am-3am with the 3 year old!
Why not try her in her own room and see how it goes?

[BettyBoo246]

Same here! Our ds can be a bugger to put bed most of the time

I might just have to bite the bullet and try her in her room, just fingers crossed it doesn’t unsettle her for the whole night

God I was much more laid back with my first, I’m sure it’s meant to be the other way round with your second/third