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10 month old will not sleep through.... any ideas pleeeeese????

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aprilgirl1 Tue 10-Jul-07 17:04:13

hiya, well my story, ten month old little boy who is perfect in everyway except at SLEEPING! and im starting back at work next week and dont think i will be able to function with the amount of sleep we are getting. He goes down with a fight every night about 9 ish ( would love it to be earlier )with me cradling him and on a bottle, he'll wake up about 11ish for another 7/8 oz bottle then about 2 ish for another bottle this feed he will not go back in his own cot if i left him he' lie and cry until i can take no more and get him into our bed, which he'll be there till morning with another feed at 5 then up about 8, but because he's drank so much milk during the night he's not eating much through the day, tried giving him water instead but he goes beserk and cries until he gets milk. idealy id like advice on how to get him to cut the night time feeds and sleep through but also how to get him into his own cot with out us having to sneak him in while he's asleep ??? any advic grateful xx

allgonebellyup Tue 10-Jul-07 17:06:25

this is my ds too.
he is 3 and a half now and still waking every 3 hrs. doesnt go to sleep til 9 too!
would like to tell you it gets better but in my experience it doesnt!

aprilgirl1 Tue 10-Jul-07 17:11:00

oh no please dont say that im at the end of my tether is he in your bed too?

DaddyJ Tue 10-Jul-07 17:22:46

Well, first of all congratulations:
your boy is 10 months old and perfect in almost every way!

And by the sound of it he does have a kind of routine
during the night; that's also not to be sniffed at.

So going from where you are now to
where you want to be is not as impossibe
as you might think.

Have you had a look at the sleep threads on here?
Do you and DH have a plan already?

aprilgirl1 Tue 10-Jul-07 17:42:46

well my plan would be to have him in bed by 8 at the latest, and to sleep best part of the night in his bed but im struggling in how to do it ... x

skidaddle Tue 10-Jul-07 17:46:27

hi april - I think the only way would be to increase his food during the day - how does he like solids? Can you persuade him to eat more than he is doing? Sounds like milk is a comfort to him during the night as well so maybe there is something else that could be a comfort to him? My inclination would be to co-sleep but don't know if this is your cup of tea.

suezee Tue 10-Jul-07 17:50:37

have you tried to keep him up a bit longer during the day?????, also have you thought of sticking something comforting in his cot with son is 20 months and NEEDS at least 3 blankets to go to sleep(i do take them out after hes well and truly nodded off)

DaddyJ Tue 10-Jul-07 17:53:26

Have you thought about cutting down feed amounts little by little each night?

I hope someone who is more familiar with ff
will see this thread and provide formula-specific advice.

aprilgirl1 Tue 10-Jul-07 18:02:08

he hardly sleeps during the day either might nod off for 20 mins mid morning then 20 mins maybe 3 ish but thats it, he's funny with his foods and is going through a stage of refusing everything ie just made him filet of cod and peas which loves and he will not have it at all all, im wasting so much food with him at the minute trying to make him eat! tried dropping his oz down but hes just waking up more frequently, how does cc work ???

aprilgirl1 Tue 10-Jul-07 18:02:55

oh and he's got 'softee' his little bear that goes everywhere with him

callmeovercautious Tue 10-Jul-07 21:07:19

I see daddyj is here already - v supportive chap!

If you want to consider cc then you have to be prepared, I used it to get DD to go down earlier (she was crying with exhaustion anyway) she had a feeding to sleep association too but she is bf. The key is to break that link which is v tough.
A blankie or fave toy may help.

Will check in if you need to talk it through.

DaddyJ Tue 10-Jul-07 21:12:49

cc works similarly to what you are doing at 2am
but instead of letting dc cry it out
you check on him at increasing intervals
until he has settled himself.

However, you need to be sure that your dc
is not crying because he is hungry
which might not be easy at the moment
seeing as he takes a big chunk of his
food intake during the night.

So the first question is: how can you make
sure he eats more during the day and less
during the night?


DaddyJ Tue 10-Jul-07 21:14:21

oh, x-post with callmeovercautious

CHOCOLATEPEANUT Tue 10-Jul-07 21:25:31

its hard to give advice as every mother has a different view.My personal view is that he is having too much milk and there is no routine. I know this word is a dirty word to some folk but if you want a baby that sleeps and eats we have to teach them what to do.

Also and this may be hard for you,I would be firmer.Hes got you by the balls and you may have to go through a bit of controlled crying or whatever the term is for him to learn to go off to sleep by himself and stay asleep.

I hope I have not offended you,I really feel for anyone who is not getting any sleep and really feel that it can be solved by routine. My dd was a 'contented baby' i had the book and swear by it (again this is an entirely personal view)
good luck

Sexonknackeredlegs Tue 10-Jul-07 21:31:07

I have to agree with ChocolatePeanut. Both dd's were sleeping through from 6 weeks.

We did have trouble with dd1 at times, and used controlled crying.It is bloody hard, but in the long run benefits everyone.

Best of luck.

CHOCOLATEPEANUT Tue 10-Jul-07 21:34:58

Yes my dd was the same sleeping through from 6 weeks but when she got to 18 months she suddely thought "hang on,i dont want to go to bed now" and we had to leave her to cry (checking every 10 mins) for 3 nights.Ist night we were up and down for 6 hours but by the 4th night she went off within minutes of going down at 7pm

It awful hearing them cry but I knew if I put her in our bed it would never stop

Sexonknackeredlegs Tue 10-Jul-07 21:41:39

Dd was the same sort of age if I remember correctly. It was a bloody nightmare, as dh was working away at the time, so was left to deal with it myself. As you say though, if you give them an inch they will take a mile, so giving in was not an option.
She is still great at bedtime now (she is 4).

CHOCOLATEPEANUT Tue 10-Jul-07 21:45:19

mine too she 4 in Nov.

Asks to go now "Mummy im sooooooooo tired I have had a very busy day"
so cute

Sexonknackeredlegs Tue 10-Jul-07 21:49:41

Oh bless her! We don't quite get that, but she goes to bed fine, and rarely comes out of her room until 7.00 the next morning. Although saying that, God love her she woke at 9.00 p.m. tonight bursting for a wee. Dh ran up and sorted her out and she was back in bed and asleep again within minutes - no messing.

Sorry, we have taken over this thread a bit!

All I can say, is be tough, even tho it is hard.

DaddyJ Tue 10-Jul-07 22:28:20

callmeoc, just worked out who you are

How are you getting on with the night wakings?
Hope things have improved - sorry the advice was bit meagre last time

BigHotMama Fri 13-Jul-07 21:12:22

Hi Aprilgirl, sorry to hear your ds having probs sleeping. I definately think he's probably waking out of habit for his feeds, we dropped ds' night feeds around 5 months I think? Not sure how you go about it though as ds stopped waking up for his? Hope it improves for you.
Our ds is 10mo too and we're experiencing problems putting him down at bedtime at the moment, he is very clingy and screams at bedtime, its so hard but we let him cry for 20mins or so and then go into him comfort him then put down and usually within 10mins he's gone and wakes up next morning around 7ish.

Good luck

ratfly Sat 14-Jul-07 19:23:59

Someone suggested once that you could give an 8oz bottle, but only put 7oz formula (so it is more dilute) in it. then gradually decrease the powder you are putting in until it is mostly water? or something?

gegs73 Sat 14-Jul-07 19:33:11

Like ratfly said diluting the formula - one less scoop every couple of nights with the same amount of water worked for us with ds1. It meant that he took more milk in the day and within a week stopped waking up for milk at night. Worth a try.

puffling Sat 14-Jul-07 19:47:24

I agree with all other posters. He's got used to taking in his calories in the night. For his sake and yours, you need to redress this by cutting down the night milk and upping the solids in the day. You could try some highly calorific foods e.g. avocado mixed with banana.
DD at 10 months had a morning and bedtime bottle of 7oz and just solids and water in the day.

ratfly Sat 14-Jul-07 19:51:06

Wow! I can't believe that I actually knew what I was talking about!

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