Dare I turn the monitor off....?

[jackio2205]

I'll be short as I can here- I'm questionning turning the baby monitor off so me and hubby can sleep.

Backstory is, have a 14mo DD who normally sleeps well. We've had regression, I've controlled cried, I've worked hard to teach her how to self settle and we stick to a good routine. She does have a dummy that needs putting back in every now and again but this month has been horrific. I've put it down to a combo of starting nursery, temperature changes and little colds, we've just not had one night where she's slept through and I just don't know what to do other than the monitor off and if she's really crying i'll hear her (her room is next to mine) and i'll go in.

Anyone got any thoughts on why/how I can help her/been through the same thing/is this a phase (dear God say yes!!)

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[crazycatlady5]

That just sounds like CIO so I’m going to say no.

It’s normal for babies to not sleep through still at 14 months. My 2 year old doesn’t sleep through the night yet. It’s really hard but It will get betttr.

[TheseThingsAreFunAndFunIsGood]

Yeah sure if you want to ignore your tiny daughter when you're All she has in the world and who she trusts and relies on to look after her and comfort her when she's having a horrible time through illness and discomfort, go ahead.

Have you a spare room you can take it in turns to sleep in during this is unsettled period so you can alternate wake up duty? Or take it turns using ear plugs for the same effect?

Tbf I think it's kinda rubbish to be considering ignoring a distressed child - Your Own distressed Little girl - cos you're a bit tired.... Definitely go alternative nights ear plugging first imo!

[TheseThingsAreFunAndFunIsGood]

And of course it's bound to be a phase!

Sorry realised I came across really brusque there but hate any type of CIO... Daft q maybe but have you a dummy clip of that's the problem? My ds had them, they're brilliant fit self soothing!

[exwhyzed]

Sorry have to completely disagree with crazycatlady

It's not controlled crying it's letting a semi toddler start working out how to self settle. It's what is recommended as a first step by most baby/toddler sleep experts- don't rush in, see if they can settle themselves for a minute or so.

Switch the monitor off. You still won't sleep for the first few nights but once you get used to not listening fot every movement you will start sleeping better.

[GrubbyHipsterBeard]

Yeah sure if you want to ignore your tiny daughter when you're All she has in the world and who she trusts and relies on to look after her and comfort her when she's having a horrible time through illness and discomfort, go ahead

Thats a bit more than “brusque”!

Op rather than turn it off can you turn the volume down so you aren’t woken by every little moan from which she self settles but will hear actual crying?

[exwhyzed]

Most parents know the difference between a sleepy nighttime whinge and a cry that needs attention.

You aren't doing any favours by responding immediately, it just creates a disturbance rather than allowing them to learn attempt to settle themselves without parental intervention.

[lavalamp08]

What does CIO stand for?

[GrubbyHipsterBeard]

Cry it out

[Byebyefriend]

I've only just switch the child monitor on as toddler (over 2) has gone into a bed. Our rooms are close, I hear him cry or shout for me but I wanted to ensure I heard any creeping around mischief.

Tips, get glow in the dark dummies and put several in and hopefully she find one and put it back in herself. Turn the volume down so you don't hear every squeak. Don't respond immediately give her a chance to settle herself.

[HedgehogsAreVeryPrickly]

I've never bothered with a monitor for 3 DC when they have gone into their own rooms. Our door is open, if they cry, I wake. Turn it off, it'll be fine. And don't feel guilty.

[TwoGinScentedTears]

I never had a baby monitor. Baby cried, we woke up.

So, I have no idea what the pp was on about with 'ignore your tiny daughter blah blah...' unless you live in a separate annexe in a stately home and the only way you'd hear your tiny daughter is through a baby monitor.

[AntiHop]

Patenting covers nighttime too. When your baby is crying, she's distressed. Yes it's inconvenient and exhausting. But that's parenting.

My dd slept badly through her baby and toddler years. I found co sleeping was the best way for us all sleep as best as possible.

Take a look at the gentle sleep book by Sarah ockwell Smith.

[spudlet7]

Please don't

[Froglette16]

My DH loves the idea of CIO although he never gets up in the night. I do and continue to do so. I’ve had instances where one was vomiting. If I hadn’t gone to her she may have choked. The other gets croup so if he cries in a certain way I need to check that he’s propped up and able to breathe. I often spend the rest of the night with him until we can go to the gp. Other times it’s bad dreams or thunder and lightning outside. At a young child’s stage these can be scary experiences. Go to your child. You’ll never regret being there, just on the off chance that something’s going wrong. And I do understand how exhausting this is, but my approach is better safe than sorry. 🌷🌷🌷

[whatsnewchoochoo]

Am I being daft ... why don't you just take it in turns to sleep?

[jackio2205]

Some great responses here, some made me genuinely LOL though, jeeeeeeez. Honestly though I do appreciate people taking the time to comment, whatever we think of eachothers methods, it'd be boring if we were all the same ay?

Phase (touch wood....) seems to be over and she's gone back to sleeping through 7-7, hoorah! Well past two nights anyway, so fingers crossed.

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