My baby was such an improbably perfect sleeper. The night I came back from the hospital he slept for 5 hours straight, I remember, from midnight to 5am. By 4 weeks he was sleeping from 10pm to 6am. By 8 weeks he was sleeping from 10pm to 8am!!! Until 4 months I didn't know the definition of sleep deprivation. THEN IT ALL WENT HORRIBLY WRONG And NOW I inhabit a world of DESPERATION!!! At 4 months he started teethign and woke every half an hour screaming. I was strict at first and never fed him before 6am. GRadually my resolve collapsed because it was such a complete nightmare settling him without feeding him. So I would feed him at 3am, and then at 5, and then he would be up for the day at 6am. I did this until he was about 7 months old but then he wouldn't eat solids during the day and I realised I had to stop reduce the night time feeding . So I cut down the nighttime feeds, using a dummy and co-sleeping - the only other things which worked at all. A month or so ago after a hellish period of me getting almost no sleep it seemed as if things were improving. The baby was sleeping from 8pm to 11pm, then waking for a feed, then going down again until 5am. THen I would give him a breast feed and he would sleep again until about 7.30. I was quite happy to tolerate this and completely relieved but in the last couple of weeks it has all degenerated again and I am so depressed. I really thought we were over it, but for the last few nights the baby has woken at 2am and then every half hour after that until 7am. If I feed him at 2am then he sleeps until 5am and then cries bitterly until he is fed again. If I just use a dummy and/or co-sleeping then he wakes every half an hour. My partner won't get up at night, so he sleeps in a different bed - this ISN'T because he has to go to work as we both work from home by the way - he is just natively selfish so the best deal I have managed to thrash out is that he gets up with the baby at 7am while I get a couple more hours sleep. - he complains bitterly about this and tells me all day how tired he is, but that's another problem I suppose.
So my question is WHAT do I do? Everyone has been telling me i have to do controlled crying, but I am completely averse. The baby is genuinely very hungry when he wakes in the ngiht, as proven I think by the fact that if I feed him at 2am he sleeps whereas if I don't then he keeps waking. BUT I don't understand why as a 4 week old baby he was capable of going longer in the night without milk??? OR even as a three day old baby, in fact. Also I can now see it degenerating again and he is getting less and less hungry for solids during the day. And I can't face antoher period of weaning him off night feedings - it was completely awful last time. IS this JUST THE WAY IT GOES? He isn't teething at present, though he is very active during the day - trying to walk, standing all the time, crawling at great speed.
During the day he eats a little bit of breakfast, then milk, then he eats - with a great deal of difficulty - a small amount of solids at lunch, then mid-afternoon milk, then again dinner is a battle of wills to get him to eat another bowlful of solids, then 8pm milk, then 11pm milk. Am I drowning his appetite with milk and so he wakes hungry? OR is he not getting enough milk? I just don't know what to do. He is big for his age - very tall and chunky too. He is definitely not under-nourished.
ANY SUGGESTIONS or shared experiences greatly appreciated. I'm up now because I have given up on sleeping for tonight. The baby is asleep having cried bitterly until I fed him again at 5am.
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The sorry story of how my baby STOPPED sleeping through the night - any advice PLEASE???!!
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Nearlyamok · 22/06/2007 06:07
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