It's just too hard!(2 Posts)
Please help I think I'm on the verge of a mental breakdown.
Ds1(20months) won't nap anymore in the day, he becomes so cranky and naughty after lunch but I just can't get him to sleep unless we go out in the pram, which isn't always possible.
Then there is ds2 ( 3mo) catnaps all day, he falls asleep on me and if I try to put him down he's awake within minutes usually because ds1 has woken him up.
HV told me to leave ds1 downstairs alone while I go and try and settle ds2 upstairs.
As much as I am uncomfortable with leaving him alone downstairs and also not happy with leaving a 3 month old alone upstairs, I gave it a try.
Ds1 started screaming as soon as I left the room which upset ds2, finally settled him upstairs only for him to wake up 5 mins later, as soon as I made a cup of tea!
I've tried and tried but it's the same every time.
I am at my wits end, dealing with2 over tired children under 2 all day, running on less than 4 hours broken sleep a night and doing all the cooking, cleaning and shopping.
I never get any time to myself, DP uses the fact I'm EBF ds2 as an excuse not to get up with him in the night so it's all down to me.
DP only works part time and the rest of the time is lazy, messy and grumpy and I'm just sick of everything!
The only thing keeping me going are my babies smiles and laughs, that's all that's making it worth while right now.
I don't know what to do, I'm fed up of crying everyday.
Sounds as though you are going through two normal things regarding sleep- a cat napping 3 month and a toddler who is resisiting. I’m sorry it’s happening at the same time, I can’t imagine how hard it is for you. Is they any way your younger one will sleep a decent length of time?Have you tried a sling or white noise? Have you tried a co sleeping nap with all 3 of you?
It does sound as though your DP needs to support you more. They are his children too and he should be doing his share if he is only working part time. Could he take the older one on a walk with the pram on his days off to get him to sleep? Does the younger one take a bottle at all? I think you need to have a serious conversation with him about how you feel because it sounds like your struggling with it all.
I’m sorry I don’t have any real solutions, I just wanted to let you know that you’re doing a fantastic job. You are an absolute super women to be handleing two under 2 pretty much single handed. I know it doesn’t feel it but it won’t be like this forever.
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