My beautiful DD is 5 months old now and her sleep is utterly disastrous. 4 month sleep regression/teething whatever, she wakes all through the night, won’t nap for longer than 30 minutes and if often impossible to put down taking numerous attempts, just for her to wake up 20 minutes later. If you had one of these little darlings when did it get better? Tell me it got better, I’m dying here......
19months woth my first LB and now going through the same with my second 4month old (who will sleep if I bed share which I hate!). No advice really but my first had undiagnosed dairy allergy TIL 6 months as well as horrendous reflux. Might be worth making sure there is no medical reason x
When we realised he just didn't need 12 hours sleep and accepted he'd be up when we were up. If he went down at 10/10.30 he slept until 6/6.30. Much better than us going up at 10.30 and him being up from 2-5.30 and us having to be up half hour later.
We rationalized it when out parents said we didn't sleep either as children and when we allowed it to dawn that we were possibly both a bit alpha and energetic.
It was more time for experiences and learning. He's 22 now and contemplating going to a party 90 minutes away.
We started gentle sleep 'training' or teaching - helping her to fall asleep without being held basically - when she turned 4 months. Then the regression hit, tried to wait it out but it was just getting worse ... and so at age 5.5 months we sleep trained, using a sleep consultant. Within a week she was sleeping 11 hours straight (having been waking 5/6 times a night) Naps took much longer but finally falling into place now (she's 6 months). Hope things settle down for you soon.
Thanks for the responses guys! It just feels so isolating. I’m actually coping okay with the tiredness, cosleeing so minimal wake up plus I have a DS who didn’t sleep though till 15 months so I’ve had training but bloody hell DD actually takes the biscuit. She’s very healthy, chubby and happy so I’m pretty certain nothings wrong she just doesn’t know how to sleep!
I had two like that. One got better at around a year. The other (school age now) still doesn't often sleep through but improved around 3. Sorry. BUT, even when sleep doesn't improve much, things do get better than at 5 months. They start moving, talking, generally doing stuff which I found made things far more bearable.
Starting nursery at 10mo helped a lot for both of them. DD1 sleeps through more often than not and has done since 3ish. DD2 is 2.5y and sleeps through about 50% of the time. If they wake in the night they are straight back to sleep though and have been since about 18mo.
He woke every hour for over two years. I night weaned him shortly after he turned two. Within about three months he was down to waking every 3-4 hours, and within six months he was mostly sleeping through. It wasn't an instant fix, and I don't regret not trying it earlier ran I did. Ultimately you have to do what you have to do, but he's five now and I look back and think he benefited hugely from having his nighttime needs met for so long.