Anyone else had multiple failures of sleep training?Arggggh

[Schwanengesang]

Onto failure #4 of sleep training with 13 mo DS. It seems to work for a few nights, even a week or two, then gets worse. So he can be convinced to go to sleep easily, sleep in 3,4, even 5 hour chunks, resettle with water and a cuddle and pat from daddy, then mummy takes over the resettling and it's instant water refusal and standoffs over night feeds... so after a week or two of no sleep I cave in and feed back to sleep... and he wakes more and more frequently... and here we are back at bedtimes taking hours and then half hourly wakings and cluster feeding half the night. He has finally agreed to feed lying beside me at least, so I don't have to sit up with 12.5 kgs of wiggly baby on my bladder, but that's about it in terms of net improvement. My back is killing me with all the lifting in & out of the cot, even though it's right next to my bed.

We are getting nowhere with this.

Give up, get a double bed and cosleep, boob in mouth, til he is 6?

There has got to be something easier. I am getting to the point of trying controlled crying I am so tired.

[PineappleScrunchie]

DC1 and 2 were sleep trained with minimal fuss, dc3 on the other hand is a nightmare. I’ve done everything I did with the other two and it just hasn’t helped. He has a good bedtime routine (no milk at bedtime at all). Falls asleep by himself in the cot (I can just put him in and leave the room). And he STILL wakes multiple times in the night.

[Schwanengesang]

And yes I know the obvious solution is for DH to do night wakings. He can't/won't because he is a workaholic and being up half the night working gives him that glow of parental approval, whereas being up with a baby just makes him think he could be using the time more productively.

If I LTB that makes my life even harder. And in all other respects DH is a model partner.

[Schwanengesang]

Pineapple you have my sympathies. How old is dc3?

[crazycatlady5]

I would just stop trying and take the path of least resistance! Must be very stressful for all of you to keep going through it.

[MoodyTwo]

I have taken off the side of his cot bed and put it against my bed so he does and army shuffle over to me and pulls my top down and starts feeding most times... he's 11 months ...
I sort of wake up and help him and adjust my position for him , but I don't fully wake.
My LO wakes anything from 1-5 times a night.
I am just going with the flow, me and DH cannot sleep train as we can't be tired at work, so this is the only way we all get sleep.

Good luck, I'm following as we may have to book a week off work to try something I think x