Ds is just 1. He has been a terrible sleeper since about 2mo, with reflux, CMPA and lots of "bad" habits instilled by me like feeding on demand, cosleeping, feeding to sleep etc. With hindsight I would have tackled things differently, instilling fewer dependence-promoting habits and trying somewhat earlier to introduce a dummy and a routine. But what's done is done and it's not clear that anything would have worked when CMPA and reflux were dominating everything. DS has just turned one, I am exhausted, and for my own mental and physical health to barely function I need more sleep.
The plan is:
Thursday-Monday of this coming week, DH will sleep in the bed next to DS' cot where I have slept for the past year (mostly with DS on me, feeding). DH will offer water and cuddles as needed, I will do a feed at 12 ish.
Subsequently I will refuse night feeds other than that midnight feed. I will offer water and cuddles, but keep putting him back in the cot and cuddling there rather than on me.
Second week of Dec (one last crack at it before all the disruption of overseas Christmas) I will move my bed out of DS's room and try a speeded-up gradual retreat, ie spend the nights on a chair patting DS through the cot bars while he screams.
Is this feasible? Too fast? Too slow? What would success even look like, for a kid who really hasn't learnt to sleep properly?
DS has two soft toys who join in feeds, we have a good bedtime routine, and bedtime generally is fine, the issue is the waking up every sleep cycle and wanting to feed. After his initial sleep (1-3 hours in the cot), I usually get a couple of times per night where I get him to cosleep next to me rather than lying on me and feeding.
Thoughts most welcome...
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Schwanengesang · 13/11/2017 02:15
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