Hello, long time reader (well 6 months) and first time poster. I'm dad to a joyful little girl Ada (6 months / 5 adjusted) who needs a little help learning how to fall asleep in her cot.
I'll skip the back story but where we are is we have (I think) taught her some strong sleep associations with rocking / breastfeeding and lullabies. I'm happy with the lullabies (I could play them all night to help me sleep) but the rocking and feeding is a problem when she wakes up 4, 5, 6 times a night. Night time is roughly 7 to 7.
We have good nights where she sleeps in her cot and only needs picking up and feeding/rocking back to sleep 3 or 4 times and we get a few 2 to 3 hour interrupted hours of sleep.
And then we have bad nights where she's waking every 40 minutes or hour and we usually end up all falling asleep mid brestfeed and mum has a very uncomfortable sleep and doesn't feel at all rested in the morning.
It's very very rare for her to fall asleep on her own in her cot (It's happened about twice) she will fall asleep in the car but I think that's the motion and white nose that helps.
I think we've taught her what she currently knows and now it's time for us to teach her how to fall asleep on her own but we are rather apprehensive!!!
I'm not sure we are ready for controlled crying so are looking at the 'gentler' methods, any suggestions?
Currently if we put her down before she is deep asleep she will wake crying instantly and usually we can not settle again with patting rubbing shhhsing etc without picking her up.
We give her a dummy when going to sleep/naps which seems to help, she doesn't have it during active awake times. We'd like to ween of this but it's not a priority and we don't want to do to much at once.
Also with these methods should we apply them to naps too? I'm reluctant to commit to always doing this as mum takes her to a lot of groups and activities and often the car ride is a good time for a nap, as is the ride in the carrier on a dog walk.
Any hint's tips help really appreciated.
Incase it helps below is an example day or two from the sleep diary, we tried to keep for a week (but it's hard to do a 3am).
14 Oct
Us to bed 2150.
2309 crying , can't comfort. Feed rhs at 2310 drop off to sleep and stop feeding quickly. Char have Apple. Drops in her rhs ear. Back into bed 2333 with dummy.
0018. Wake. Feed LHS.
251 wake crying had spept in mums àrms. Food RHS. 303 back into be bed.
Wake 326. Cuddle Mum and suck dummy. Back in to bed 333.
403 wake. Feed RHS.
514 rhs
600 wake in mums arms. Feed RHS. Un-settled calmed on LHS.
730 wake up on mum, feed RHS.
15 Oct
730 Get up dressed and play for 1.5 hours.
900 feed both sides (and ear drops). Then try to get to sleep and got more wound up in bed, eventually screaming and quickly got more stress and eventually screaming..
1010 Come down stairs with mum who patted and hummed to soothe and sleep with dummy.
1045 wake and then play
1150 feed, difficult feed lots of whineing/discomfort seeming. Swap sides but didn't see to help much. Blanket and lights off seemed to help calm her down and feed better.
1219 fall asleep on mum after soothing with dummy and humming with blanket on head.
1234 drops in right ear.
1311 wake up.
1403 feed, squirming and squeals didn't really get much milk in. We abandoned fairly quickly.
1455 poop and feed.
1547 fall asleep in carrier
1715 wake up
1738 feed but only a little each side.
1855 feed.
1944 in to cot after falling asleep on mum to Roger the rabbit.
2139 wake (likely caused by us having showers and getting ready for bed). Feed RHS.
2156 was put back in to bed but quickly grizzled and unhappy. Took out and feed LHS.
2215 put Ada back in cot. And us to sleep.
2304 Ada wake.
....
140 back into bed
301 wake up
404 back in cot.
443 wake feed LHS
540 Up feed LHS RHS
640 get up for the morning
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tam203 · 27/10/2017 14:03
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