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MamaJaye Tue 19-Sep-17 23:42:00

I know that he current guidelines are for baby to sleep in the same room until 6 months but I just wondered how everybody manages this?

I don't go to bed until at least midnight so should I be keeping baby with me in the lounge?? The lamps/tv etc are on so I feel like he wouldn't get a good sleep. Then I would have to move him when I did go to bed.

Just interested in hearing what you all do?


JassyRadlett Tue 19-Sep-17 23:46:08

I think we had each of ours in the room with us in the evening until about 3/4 months - DS2 in particular was a total night owl. We turned the lights down, didn't have the TV too loud but honestly, most small babies can sleep through most steady noise.

After 3 months or so - in bed around 7, baby monitor with movement alarm (probably not necessary but still).

Mine both fed around 11pm until past 6 months.

I know it's not the guidelines - which say with you always until 6 months. It's a really tough one.

confused123456 Tue 19-Sep-17 23:51:22

Our little boy only ever slept upstairs in his crib from the day he came home for day and night sleeps. I hate Moses baskets so would never ever have one, and I didn't see the need to have him sleeping downstairs, I always had the video monitor on.
I didn't want him in his own room at night until he was much older.
We wanted to put him in a toddler bed, so at 16 months we put his cot in his own room, then at 17 months we went in his toddler bed.
I didn't mind at all him sleeping upstairs during the day, as I was up and awake. But the thought of him being in his own room at night when we were asleep I didn't like until he was much older.

Pennywhistle Tue 19-Sep-17 23:51:40

We put our twins in their own room at 7 months.

When they were very tiny they slept downstairs until their 9pm feed after which they (and I) would go to bed until their midnight feed.

As they got a bit bigger we'd bath them and then put them to bed in our room to sleep from about 8pm and we'd take the monitor back downstairs with us until our bedtime.

That was the theory anyway there was always at least one of them awake

gigi556 Wed 20-Sep-17 00:55:05

I asked my health visitor what people did with the baby sleep after they outgrow the Moses basket at 3/4 months and she said most go to their own room! I was a bit surprised tbh. However, DS is now 15 weeks and we just moved him to his own room a few days ago. DP is a light sleeper and having him in with us was just not working.

crazycatlady5 Wed 20-Sep-17 09:15:18

I definitely don't think most people put them in their own room after outgrowing Moses basket! Maybe back in the day?

We put our 7 month old upstairs at bedtime, she goes to sleep on our bed and when we go up we transfer her. We've done this for about a month, at 6 months I realised there was too much exciting stuff going on downstairs for her to pay attention to and was getting overtired smile

Pennywhistle Wed 20-Sep-17 13:53:52

Once ours outgrew their Moses baskets we moved both their cots into our bedroom. Most of our friends did the same thing.

When they were ready for their own room we rearranged again and put the cots into their room.

Mammy2myboy Wed 20-Sep-17 14:55:19

My baby is 8 weeks and he has a bath around 6pm and feeds in our room until around 7/7 30pm then I put him in his moses basket, put the monitor on and come downstairs until 10.30 when he has his last night time feed. We have a video monitor so i can see him breathing/moving etc. We kept hin downstairs for maybe the first week or two but this routine seems to be working well for him. His sleep can be all over the place through the night but generally he sleeps well from 7ish-10ish.

Mammy2myboy Wed 20-Sep-17 14:56:09

What i meant to add is if you are thinking of putting your baby in their own room, maybe invest in a video monitor to put your mind at ease?

andbabymakesthree Wed 20-Sep-17 15:00:58

All sleep including naps is suppose to be in same room as you for at least first six mths.

Used moses basket and toddlepod for downstairs.

Chicco next to me and now compact cot upstairs.

At nearly nine months we are just starting to let him sleep upstairs in evenings without us. He'll be in our room til 18mths I reckon.

katiegg Wed 20-Sep-17 15:01:58

both ours were in their own rooms from about 4 weeks. they both seemed to hate the moses basket and were much happier in a cot which wouldn't fit in our room. everyone slept better when they went into their own rooms, it was like having a noisy badger lying in a basket at the bottom of the bed, constant fidgeting!

it's not for everyone, but plenty of people move them before 6months.

Meepmoop Wed 20-Sep-17 15:05:19

Our 8 week old stays downstairs with us until we go bed but I tend to be in bed before 10.

We have a Moses basket downstairs but when he outgrows it we have a bouncy chair that vibrates that he sleeps in.

He's pretty grumpy in the evening at the moment so he tends to nap on us (between feeding) until we go upstairs. Then it's feed and in his cot in our room.

gigi556 Wed 20-Sep-17 15:41:09

@crazycatlady5 I was a hmm but talking to a lot of my friends many have put baby in their own room before 6 months. Many also wait though. I think a lot is down to personal circumstances and space as well.

Tempranillo Wed 20-Sep-17 15:53:25

It is safest for the baby to be in the same room as you for all sleeps for at least 6 months. it reduces the risk of SIDS. A video monitor does not have the same benefits!

Out of interest, why do you hate Moses baskets?

InDubiousBattle Wed 20-Sep-17 15:58:31

We kept both of our dc downstairs with us until 6 months. With ds he would settle in the moses baskets downstairs from around 10-12 weeks. Dd needed to be held pretty much the whole time.

andbabymakesthree Wed 20-Sep-17 16:42:18

Those saying they slept better in their own rooms.

You realise that part of the reason they sleep better is they go into a deeper sleep. One of the risk factors for Sids?

seventeenlittleducks Wed 20-Sep-17 17:35:11

We used to have ds downstairs with us in Moses basket of an evening and then took him up to bed with us when we were ready, we didn't change our evening routine at all and ds slept through tv noise etc. We did this for a few months. Ds was in cot in our room until about 9 months but that was just because I didn't want him to be too far away.

Idratherhaveacupoftea Wed 20-Sep-17 17:38:36

In own room for about 3 months. No video monitor or any sort of monitor, that's what we all did back in the day. My cousins kids went straight into their own rooms straight from hospital at a few days.

riddles26 Wed 20-Sep-17 18:19:51

Until around 5 months, she would go to sleep just half an hour before me at night so I would put her in her cot in my room and she would be alone with monitor while I showered and got ready for bed then we all slept in same room for the whole night. She was a non-napper at this stage and the few times she did sleep during the day it was on me or in the pushchair with me walking for hours on end.

Put her into a routine at 5.5 months where she would go to sleep at 7pm and nap in her cot. Cot was still in our room but she was alone during naps and from 7pm-10pm. Moved her into her own room at around 8-9 months but I still sleep in her room more often than not.

From my anecdotal experience, most have had babies sleeping in parents rooms until 6 months but tend to put babies to sleep in their cot earlier in the evening than they themselves go to sleep from 3-4 months onwards so baby is alone for around 1-2 hours.

Mammy2myboy Wed 20-Sep-17 18:30:03

Mamajayne- it's a topic where there's always conflicting views. You do what feels right for you and your baby. A video monitor may not have the same benefits but it works for me as i can eat/clean etc during naps in the day, whilst seeing and hearing my baby and the same between 7 and 10 at night. X

DoubleHelix79 Wed 20-Sep-17 18:52:28

DD started sleeping in her own bed from about 2 months I think. I slept on a single bed in the same room until last week (she's now 6 months). It really helped me get back to sleep quickly.

DH slept upstairs - he doesn't cope with sleep deprivation, so I'm doing the night shifts. DD is breastfed anyway, and 99% of wakeups require a feed.

The single bed used to be the guest bed, so we had it anyway. It will now function as a makeshift sofa, with a few nice throws and cushions to make it comfy.

katiegg Wed 20-Sep-17 19:31:54

*Those saying they slept better in their own rooms.

You realise that part of the reason they sleep better is they go into a deeper sleep. One of the risk factors for Sids?*

Yes, I'm aware. I'd also imagine that most people who decide to put babies into their own room before the 6 month mark have done some reading around and are also aware.

Surferbel Fri 22-Sep-17 14:27:18

Hi, my baby boy stayed in our room until he was 6 and a half months old. We tried to move him at 5 months but he simply wasn't ready and awoke crying and veg distressed so we abandoned he plan. The extra month and a half made a huge difference and after acouple of unsettled initial transitional nights he has been sleeping in there great for the last couple of weeks now. We never had a set bedtime for our little man as found when we tried that everyone got too stressed. It worked for us to let him stay down with us in his pjs and sleepbag and when he started to show signs of tiredness we would take him up to bed and come back down. In the early days we tended to be upstairs with him quietly watching an iPad with headphones while he slept but usually zonked out ourselves with him due to complete exhaustion!! We found he naturally got into his own routine and transitioned and now goes to bed happily between 7 and 8. And we haven't forced this bedtime he just got earlier and earlier as time went on. Babies are smart and will sharp let you know when they need sleep. We have a Motorola baby monitor which I find a godsend and can even go outside and hang washing out while he daytime naps; it's a lifesaver! For us the laid back natural approach worked best for us and our baby. Baring in mind all babies are different and what works for one may not work for another. Hope you find what works for you and your little one.

Sunnyx Fri 22-Sep-17 19:49:18

From about 2 months, I fed to sleep and left baby upstairs in basket or now cot next to our bed. I kept an eye on him with video/sound monitor. He is now 4 months. I think moving him upstairs is disturbing him and there is too much noise/distraction downstairs

Sashkin Sat 23-Sep-17 00:51:28

Mine used to like sleeping on my leg, so I'd keep him with me then carry him up to bed when I went up.

Thankfully around four months he started sleeping through, so we put him down in the crib in our room at 7 and use the monitor until we go to bed ourselves. I know it's not ideal, but the light wakes him up now and I'm not sitting in darkness for four hours every night. I do stay with him for naps - I use the time to have a quick nap myself!

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