Hello 4 month sleep regression, now p*ss off

[sphinxster]

I've just spent 2 hours shushing and playing heart beat sound tracks.

She's fallen asleep approximately 874 times and has immediately woken back up.

Reasons she's woken up: the cat jumping in an adjacent room, neighbour using a strimmer, me trying to sneak out of the room, a car door in the road, her own arms moving, the wind blowing the front door, her own legs moving, a butterfly farting in Mongolia...

She's shattered, she's tearful, but she won't go to sleep! We've now missed the nap boat as 18 month old has just woken from his nap and will want to point out her nose and eyes.

[user1482079332]

Don't want to read and run, currently In the same boat. Feels like it's never going to end

[sphinxster]

Longest day ever. I think my teeth might fall out from all the shushing!

[Youvegotafriendinme]

DS is stil in the fucking regression 2 months on. I'm currently standing in his room while he crys for no reason and have been for the past hour. he will be due the next regression before he gets out of this one!

[user1482079332]

It just feels so personal. Was your lo sleeping through prior? Mine had started reaching 5hours. I'd be doing cartwheels if he just managed an hour. Lady at play group asked if it's normal for her baby to sleep 7-7 could have ripped apart a play mat and strangled her with it

[sphinxster]

User has she ever met a mother before? Stealth boasty witch!

It's the daytime nap refusing that's killing me. I can cope with evenings and nighttime with DH at home. I ended up giving the toddler toast and microwaved egg for his dinner today because I couldn't get a thing done.

[Youvegotafriendinme]

Oh! User14820, I know that feeling! The mums at sensory class have stopped asking me if he is sleeping better now! DS has just woken up, was going to give him a 10pm dream feed (only just started trying it.) He is wide awake as if 2.5hrs was enough! I'd love more than 2 hours sleep!

Any one else fed up of being told 'it will get better!'

[Youvegotafriendinme]

sphinxster I couldn't work out how you microwaved toast but then re read it! Regression brain!

[sphinxster]

I've been repeating "It will get better" to myself all day.

[sphinxster]

I've been doing a midnight dream feed which has been working well and I'm hoping after being awake from 7am-7pm without one single minute of napping, she'll sleep through a marching band practicing.

[sphinxster]

Youvegotafriend if I could microwave it, I would!

[furryelephant]

We're at 6 months now and after 2.5 months still having horrendous sleep not so horrendous when I give in and let her sleep in my bed though! You definitely go into autopilot survival mode

[CatsCantFlyFast]

I'm pretty sure you'll have tried it but white noise, through a decent speaker, stops the wake ups here. I have it pretty bloody loud (I use one called calm waves) so no other household noise can be heard

[sphinxster]

Notwithoutmymerkin that might work for us as the only time she closes her eyes is when I've shushed so much I fear for my teeth!!

[Youvegotafriendinme]

furryelephant we are at 6mo too! I thought it would be over by now. Feels never ending doesn't it!

[furryelephant]

I've convinced myself that this is how the rest of my life of sleep will be so then anything better will feel like an achievement! She's just come out of a leap and getting over being unwell so I'm hoping it might improve soon, at least enough that I can have some without the worry that she won't sleep until she's in with me

[Grayfig]

OP have you tried the Baby Shusher app on your phone? I agree this is awful, mine has had crap naps and night sleep for 1.5 months and she is now almost 5m old. Worse, I'm ending up feeding her to sleep every time after previous success with hands on settling! And keep feeling as if perhaps (and being told by everyone) the only cure is sleep training. Is anyone else in this boat? Then again, I don't see why sleep training is the answer when I know many babies who settle with minimal intervention, surely they all reach that stage eventually?

[furryelephant]

@Grayfig I feel like sometimes the only answer will be sleep training too, I also feed her to sleep for all wake ups! Sometimes she falls back asleep before her head hits the pillow she lies on to feed thoughI don't think I could do CIO or anything like that, I bought the book by the Cheshire Baby Whisperer or something but haven't implemented anything yet. I have a feeling I'll continue rocking/swaying/playing music for her to fall asleep until I go back to work and hoping my mum will sort it

[Grayfig]

It's so frustrating how almost all the bubs in my mothers group go to sleep with just white noise / maybe a dummy. Mine won't take one, I've tried! Maybe we should start a thread for those in the same boat (4-6mth olds) who don't want to use crying methods - there's an old thread like this but it may be nice to have solidarity and tips as to what works?

[furryelephant]

Oh it would be lovely!! I'll try and think of some sort of amusing title for one if you haven't my DD loves her dummy, but more to hold and chew the plastic rather than suck I agree about being frustrated with everyone else's perfectly sleeping babies! One at a group I go to sleeps 12 hours straight and "only" naps for 30 minutes in their cot... I felt like screaming that mine won't even go in the cot at night

[Youvegotafriendinme]

Oh yes! Son does this with his dummy! Puts it in his mouth, chews the plastic then pulls it out but cries for you to put in back in!

[user1495370365]

Your message had me giggling - your sense of humour will get you through this phase! My son went from sleeping through consistently to waking twice for a feed at 4 months. It ended as suddenly as it started. Fingers crossed you're heading for the end!

[Youvegotafriendinme]

I wish my son only woke twice! From the time I put him down at 7am till the time he wakes at roughly 5am, he wakes up at least 6-8 times. It's like he is just taking lots of naps! I love him dearly but the lack of sleep is making me want to move down to the garage

[furryelephant]

You've I regularly threaten my DD with her being put in the shed if she doesn't go back to sleep. Think it just makes her angrier

[furryelephant]

[Youvegotafriendinme]

furryelephant how was your night? I've had a total of 3 hours through the night. This is just getting worse each night!