This is really long so apologies. I just want to get as much information in as possible.
We put 9mo DD to bed at 8pm each night and she wakes up usually between 7:30 and 8:30 in the morning. I breastfeed her to sleep which takes around 10-20 minutes depending on how tired she is. I probably carry on cuddling her for another 20 minutes or so to make sure she's completely asleep (and because I like the snuggles!). We're co-sleeping, but she has a cot in our room. At the moment, I tend to put her down in her cot once she's asleep and read/take care of some emails or whatever in bed. She will usually stay asleep in there for a couple of hours before waking up, at which point I bring her into bed with me. This is pure laziness on my part, because when she wakes in the night after I go to bed I can feed her back to sleep without having to really wake up myself. I don't think there's anything wrong with long term co-sleeping actually, and neither myself nor DH are particularly adverse to it so I suppose we could just keep going like this. However I do worry that we will end up co-sleeping until she's about 30 and I don't know how we would manage if/when we have another baby if she's still sleeping with us.
We have only been co-sleeping for a couple of months. Prior to this, she was in a Next To Me side sleeper. She would wake every 2-3 hours on average (some nights waking hourly, sometimes​ going for a 5 hour stretch) and I would feed her back to sleep before putting her down each time. Some nights (maybe half the time) she would wake as soon as I put her down so I'd have to feed her to sleep again and again until she was finally deeply enough asleep to go down without waking. This is why we've gone with the co-sleeping because it just enables us all to have a much better night's sleep.
In terms of naps, she takes 3 naps per day. She can manage about 2 or 3 hours awake before she needs another nap. The vast majority of her naps are only 25-35 minutes long. Occasionally, she will sleep for an hour or even 2 hours but that doesn't happen often at all. I breastfeed her to sleep for naps if we are at home and she sleeps in my arms. She never seems to get into a deep enough sleep during a nap that I could put her down without her waking up. She will also nap in the pram or her car seat if we're​ out.
I like co-sleeping with DD and I love having her nearby (I actually think I have a bit of anxiety when it comes to being apart from her, even going downstairs while she's in bed is upsetting to me. I need to work on this). But I also think we need to reclaim some adult space and this means being able to put her down in her cot, in her own room. I also worry that if I don't teach her to self settle and sleep independently then she will struggle more with it in the future. I mean, she's got to learn to do it at some stage right? I don't want to end up with a school aged child who is unable to sleep alone. But l also see lots of evidence that co-sleeping is developmentally appropriate for babies and I really love it so I don't mind sharing with her if it's the best thing. Plus I just have no idea where to begin with getting her in her own room so there's an element of just being overwhelmed.
Has anybody else been in this situation? What did you do? I'd also be really interested to hear if anybody co-slept, what age did you stop and how did that work out?
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9mo breastfeeding to sleep, rubbish naps and co-sleeping
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TiredCluelessMummy · 28/03/2017 22:03
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