Apologies if this is long but there are a few things I'd really appreciate some advice on. At the moment I really do feel like I can't think staight....
My DD is 20 weeks old. She weighs over 15 lbs and used to be such a contented baby but the last few weeks have really changed that and I sometimes feel like I don't read her cues properly anymore.
We try to follow the EASY routine and at first I felt confident with it but lately more like I've lost my way.
Firstly my DD has now taken to having only 1-2oz of milk at each feed (she's FF) but wanting that every hour. Sometimes she wants more milk after 45 mins. This means she never really takes a full feed as she's never truly hungry. How can I change this? Should I make her go a little longer each time? I'd feel mean leaving her when she's hungry but I can't carry on with the 2oz every hour. She will not entertain a full feed every 2 hours and it's disheartening when you know the 2oz is not enough to see her sleep much at night.
Also she constantly seems tired. I try to limit her awake time to 40 mins if her nap has been short but she will not go to sleep. She screams in her bouncy chair, she wriths around in her pram. One of the only ways to get her to sleep is rocking her with one of her arms pinned down (gently) by me otherwise she pulls her dummy out then screams because she can't put it back in. This is repeated for the 30 mins it takes to get her to sleep. Then she sleeps for 40 mins and wakes up tired, rubbing eyes etc. I try extending her naps by rocking her again but she never goes back off. I feel ashamed to admit it but last night I shouted at her to go to fucking sleep
She has now taken to waking at 5.30am for a feed but again will only take 2oz. She did this again this morning and we went back to bed (I put her in my bed hoping to get more sleep) She then woke up at 6.15am, all smiles, so we went downstairs. She then started rubbing her eyes and looking tired. I tried her with more milk but she wasn't interested. I then walked around with her until 7am in an attempt to get her back to sleep. She took another ounce and finally went off at 7.15am. Surely this isn't right is it?? Should she need a nap an hour after waking up in the morning? I wonder whether the 5.30am should have been handled differently and I should have got her back to sleep without milk. She's just woken up now at 7.45am but still looks tired.
Thank you if you have managed to get to the end of this but I really am struggling. Some days when she's just screaming at me I feel like walking out and never coming back. My DH is good with her but he works long hours so is out of the house until late. He also doesn't understand the need for her to sleep regularly during the day so if I leave her with him at the weekend to catch up on some sleep he will have her awake for 3 hours straight and then I'm left dealing with the inevitable meltdown.
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WoodsfortheTrees · 11/03/2017 07:55
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