So, the last four days I cannot get my daughter to nap in her cot, 20 months old, has slept every day for the last three months in her cot, but now refusing and I can't help but find it so frustrating to the point where I end up crying as it gets to me so much. I tried for 45 minutes today but nothing. I'm starting to find it is affecting my mental health as I struggle with it so much and I then feel guilty. Buggy naps haven't worked for months and months, getting in the car and going for a drive does work. Should I just learn to suck it up and not get frustrated and upset about it or should I be sleep training for her nap time? Going to bed she touch wood is fine at the moment so I know we are lucky with that. I worry that letting her cry and scream will be detrimental to her going to bed at night in case she associates her cot with being a traumatic place.
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I just started taking mine out for a nap in the car everyday....
Insanedame - do you find it frustrating or do you just go with it? How old is your child?
Ooohsopink- my mum said the same but I just think it seems too early for her to drop it plus as soon as we get in the car generally within ten minutes she has conked out! 
Fate - I know, I'm not sure why I get so down over it, I think it's because I was lead to believe that babies should and do always sleep in their cot and then I feel like a failure when I can't achieve it. I had quite a few months of one day she would nap in her cot the next she wouldn't but then we seemed to have cracked it! And now we seem to have uncracked it! I am grateful she will sleep in the car as I don't think she would make a whole day without it. It honestly bothers me that much I'm not sure I'm cut out to have another baby which I find sad too. She doesn't use a comforter, I have tried to get her to like things but she isn't worried. She stopped using a dummy months ago but uses one to hold in her hand as she drifts off so I guess that is a comforter, when she isn't lobbing it around her bed laughing! 
. She is such a little angel with a great sense of humour that I feel guilty even getting internally angry with her. It's not her fault is it! she did go down within five minutes for her father yesterday! Maybe tomorrow will be better!
To be fair, if I go out in the car I fall asleep too (not when driving though! 
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Sometimes little ones make up their own minds about these things and if she is sleeping well at night then maybe that's ok?
Do you need the downtime while she naps?
Ooohsopink - I wonder if it is because I need the downtime, just time to do a little bit of ironing and cooking and to get the house straight, I am a sahm and I think it's because I feel that everything should be perfect as I don't work and don't have to do anything else! And yes I suppose if she sleeps well at night why am I complaining I suppose saying it out loud makes me feel better, I don't really tell anyone about how I feel. It just feels like they pop their little ones in their cot and that's It, two hours later they get up! But perhaps it is not really like that!
Somehowsomewhere - perhaps she is the same as your children, early to drop her naps! I will try quiet time and see. She very rarely seems grumpy even if she has only had a half hour snooze in the car.
Generally I feel fine and am a happy person with lots of support which is why it has stumped me that I have felt like this since my daughter has been born more or less. It has been my biggest worry. It may also stem from the fact that I read a lot about if they don't sleep enough during the day they won't sleep well at night, sleep breeds sleep etc! Pah, who knows! I'm just being a twit!
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