3yo sleep problems driving us mad!

[Kkmuppet]

We have a 3yo dd who has always been late to bed - she doesn't seem to get tired til about 9 despite hectic days and no naps. That in itself would be fine except for three things - sometimes it's not 9, it's midnight or occasionally later before we can get her to sleep; pretty much every night she creeps into our bed at around 3am and kicks my husband all night; sometimes she wakes up at 2-3 am and won't go back to sleep again but wants to play.
We are so sleep deprived we have lost all sense of how we are supposed to deal with this - help!!

[FATEdestiny]

That's a behaviour issue more than a sleep issue.

The simplest answer to all of you getting more sleep might be to embrace cosleeping.