Namechanged in case recognised and also just cos I want an anti-Daily Mail alt, the bastards.
My child is 21 months old. I've always got him to sleep by breastfeeding and then lying next to him until he falls asleep. Never had any success with anything else. This is no longer working well, as he often takes 45 mins or so to fall asleep and then wakes up after an hour or so, looks for me and screams when he can't find me.
He is at peak (I hope!) separation anxiety stage, happily plays on his own etc in the daytime as long as I'm in sight but not very tolerant of me going into a different room. I'm a SAHP and can't afford outside childcare, he won't be eligible for free hours until he's 2 and a half because of when his birthday falls so it's just the two of us nearly all day every day, and will be for a while yet.
We are co-sleeping on a big mattress on the floor of his room, which has a safety gate in the doorway and I've been leaving the door open when I sneak out once he's asleep. There's only me and him in the house, his dad moved out a few months ago although he still sees him almost every day.
I am really not keen on "Cry It Out" methods.
He knows lots of words and phrases including "wait" and "just going to the bathroom", but these don't help at night time and he doesn't have enough language yet to really understand explanations like I will come back in 5 minutes etc.
I'm frustrated and lonely, it's difficult to have people here after he's gone to bed because I end up spending most of the evening upstairs settling him, and naps are becoming just as difficult so I have to lie next to him for an hour or he doesn't nap - no chance to get anything done or have a break then either.
Help. WTF should I do?
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DailyMailSucks · 30/01/2017 21:26
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