We've been going through a rough patch with my 19 month old son. It's pretty standard (at least I'm told, for kids his age) tantrums during the day, loads of energy and seeming frustrated and bored, so we'll do an activity or take him out somewhere and he'll have a tantrum and have to carry him home whinging or screaming. Then he'll start again because he's tired or hungry.
He's our first so this is all really draining but it's what I expected so I'm not overly worried.
However at night it changes. He'll wake up at about 1am and then 3am and start crying. This isn't new, he usually settles immediately when I pass him his water cup or lay a hand on his tummy to settle him. Problem is now he'll become hysterical very quickly, whether I ignore him or not.
It's a weird kind of hysterical crying too. I've read about night terrors and this sounds like it, but I get the impression that he should be dazed and confused or not recognise me or something. Instead it's like he's throwing the most intense tantrum ever, to the point where he could be terrified or in intense pain and I'm frightened for him. But then il try to give him his cup, feel a moment of relief when he takes it, and I think maybe he'll take a drink and calm down. But then, after taking it (and he really goes to some effort to quieten down, get it from me and hold it firmly) he throws it at the wall or floor as if it is just a normal tantrum after all and it's all calculated. But then he'll go into hysterics again as if he is frightened to death or in pain.
I just don't understand. His tantrums during the day are no where near this level. Is this a night terror or a tantrum?
He has his own bed right next to ours, as we recently transitioned from sleeping in our bed to his own. It's been nearly a month and it was a smooth transition, so I'm sure it's not the problem. He has a healthy diet, eats fruit and veg and no juice and rarely sweets or chocolate. He has an hour and a half nap from about 12.30-2, which he takes consistently without problems and gets very grumpy if he goes without. He has a set bedtime routine and enjoys going to bed and sleeping. He used to consistently sleep through the night, only crying a couple of times before settling a few times a night and wake up at 7am or just after. Now it's often 5 - 6:30.
When he has these episodes he seems to want his daddy more than me, and he also calms instantly when he's taken over to his mobile and allowed to touch it, or out to the living room where his toys are.
I know I'm making it sound more and more like just a tantrum, but the intensity of his screaming is unbelievable and it just doesn't seem like a tantrum until he stops to throw his cup or calms to play with his toys or mobile. Like, I'm ready to call NHS 24 pannicking down the phone that my toddler has something badly wrong with him, crying like that.
What on earth is happening here? Leaving him to cry is not an option because he is very very loud and just goes on and on and on. We are in a one bed flat so there is no escape from the noise and our neighbours have a young son who we don't want to keep up. Tonight it has been so bad my partner took him through and is sitting watching cartoons with him, but this can't be something we keep doing.
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ParsleyCake · 26/01/2017 01:54
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